"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have a case of severe oneitis!

Aesthetix29

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Hey, this is ridiculous now it's been about 2 weeks since contacting a girl I was seeing ... And I'm still feeling it .... What the hell is up with me, she wasn't even all that .. But her personality is what drew me too her the most ... Is there anyway I can re-ignite interest... Probably not I know. Well today's my birthday and I'm feeling like this!

Honestly I think my problem is that I'm too much of a nice guy ... How do I overcome this sh*tty behaviour that's ruining my chances with every girl I meet ... Things are good for the first few weeks then BOOM! I'm dropped quicker than I can say it! Life's sh*t! RANT OVER!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Espi said:
the best cure in my opinion is to spin plates. Go out and meet as many women as you possibly can & line up multiple dates this weekend.
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Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
 
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Konada said:
Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
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Konada said:
Respectfully disagree. In OP's case is that he is not too much of a nice guy, he is too much of a needy guy. No matter how plates he spins he will still crave female validation.

Self-validation is the key to a self-sufficient mentality, embrace this mindset and your frame will permeate through your actions. Personally I only have 1 plate now but knowing that I am already happy alone (with the ability to pull whenever I want) prevents me from having oneitis.
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Hi Konada, your post hit the nail on the head I think ... I'm a good looking guy .. I just get needy, how can I rid myself of this disease haha!
 
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The reason this happens to you is that you are thinking about one woman too much. You CAN NOT focus on just one girl, you have to date as many women as you can. Nip this in the bud... when you find yourself thinking too much about one chick you have to FORCE yourself to concentrate on something else. Call up another woman and invite her out, start hitting up other women. Do not let yourself slip into this needy behavior because it is the FASTEST way to lose the woman you are interested in.
 
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The reason this happens to you is that you are thinking about one woman too much. You CAN NOT focus on just one girl, you have to date as many women as you can. Nip this in the bud... when you find yourself thinking too much about one chick you have to FORCE yourself to concentrate on something else. Call up another woman and invite her out, start hitting up other women. Do not let yourself slip into this needy behavior because it is the FASTEST way to lose the woman you are interested in.
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Thanks ranger ... Spot on also! I've just gone self employed so that should keep me busy most of the time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Aesthetix29 said:
Hey, this is ridiculous now it's been about 2 weeks since contacting a girl I was seeing ... And I'm still feeling it .... What the hell is up with me, she wasn't even all that .. But her personality is what drew me too her the most ... Is there anyway I can re-ignite interest... Probably not I know. Well today's my birthday and I'm feeling like this!

Honestly I think my problem is that I'm too much of a nice guy ... How do I overcome this sh*tty behaviour that's ruining my chances with every girl I meet ... Things are good for the first few weeks then BOOM! I'm dropped quicker than I can say it! Life's sh*t! RANT OVER!!
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I haven't talked to my x in quite a while and she just popped into my mind this morning. It sucks! BE GONE DEVIL! Time and no contact will eventually cure you. Plus the other suggestions the previous posters made.
 
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Yes I'm too familiar with NC haha ... Can't believe I'm still having these problems, I reckon the only way to get a reaction in her emotions is 'Jealousy' but she has to be attracted to you still some what ... In which I don't think that's the case with her and me ... I'm obsolete LOL! :(
 
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nah it's just oxytocin and your scarcity mentality. you will get over it. get other prospects and you won't remember her name in a month
 
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nah it's just oxytocin and your scarcity mentality. you will get over it. get other prospects and you won't remember her name in a month
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Pretty much yeah .... That's done, live and learn!
 
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