knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
I would never do this. If a girl tells me she's seeing someone, she might as well be married as far as I'm concerned. I'm not going to pursue her. There are too many single women out there for me to do that.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"I have a boyfriend"
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I would never do this. If a girl tells me she's seeing someone, she might as well be married as far as I'm concerned. I'm not going to pursue her. There are too many single women out there for me to do that.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
I wonder why.
knglerxt
Senior Don Juan
That's disingenuous, though. You know full well you aren't just trying to meet people. You're trying to hook up.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
Girl: "I have a boyfriend"
Me: "And since when has that bothered me?"
Or similar. I'd have to have built good rapport first though.
Stealing girlfriends is fun
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Me: "And since when has that bothered me?"
Or similar. I'd have to have built good rapport first though.
Stealing girlfriends is fun
.Her: I have a boyfriend
You: So you only talk to your BF on the phone, huh? that's sad. You sounds like your a slave in Roots or something. well are you?
Her: no i'm not, lmao. It's just that my BF wouldn't like it if I spoke to another guy on the phone.
You: PLEASE!!! break out the violin music. You should call 1800 Doc Phil for help. But, in the mean-time, give me your number and we might be able to do something sometime. That is, since your not a slave.
You: So you only talk to your BF on the phone, huh? that's sad. You sounds like your a slave in Roots or something. well are you?
Her: no i'm not, lmao. It's just that my BF wouldn't like it if I spoke to another guy on the phone.
You: PLEASE!!! break out the violin music. You should call 1800 Doc Phil for help. But, in the mean-time, give me your number and we might be able to do something sometime. That is, since your not a slave.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: *disgusted look*, Umm, sorry I'm not into threesomes. Maybe with two chicks, but not with a chick and a guy.
Me: *disgusted look*, Umm, sorry I'm not into threesomes. Maybe with two chicks, but not with a chick and a guy.
BrokenHalo5
New Member
This one worked on a hot bisexual Hooter's waitress:
"I have to get going, but I'd like to continue our conversation. Write down your number."
"I have a boyfriend."
"So? I have a girlfriend."
"I have to get going, but I'd like to continue our conversation. Write down your number."
"I have a boyfriend."
"So? I have a girlfriend."
BrokenHalo5
New Member
At a bar/club, I went in for the kiss:
"But, I have a boyfriend..."
"So? He's not here right now."
"No, but my friends are here; they will see..."
"Let's see if the bathroom is empty."
I took her hand and found an empty stall in the ladies room.
"But, I have a boyfriend..."
"So? He's not here right now."
"No, but my friends are here; they will see..."
"Let's see if the bathroom is empty."
I took her hand and found an empty stall in the ladies room.
AcknowledgeDaRep
Don Juan
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Recently started using this response:
her: "I have a boyfriend"
me: that's cute, we just met and you're already calling me your boyfriend. Relax, there's no need to come on so strong.
her: "I have a boyfriend"
me: that's cute, we just met and you're already calling me your boyfriend. Relax, there's no need to come on so strong.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
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The Juan and only
Master Don Juan
Her: I have a boyfriend
You: Are you trying to talk me into a threesome? well I'm not interested - it would have to be with two women.
You: Are you trying to talk me into a threesome? well I'm not interested - it would have to be with two women.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
I completly agree. Don't act any differenly than if she said "i have a cat". Just ignore it.
I have the best one! lolz
First of all you must have a funny repution or look funny. So basically be known as abit of a comedian.
I usually start off doing somthing lame to get thier attention.
Me: Would you lovly laides care for a dance? *very slight bow*
Her: Errrrr.... I've got a boyfriend
Me: No no no I don't wanna fvck your boyfriend
or
Me: That's alright i'll do him after you
I honestly use these lol And they always get laughs with younger women, just don't try it on the sophisicated types.
First of all you must have a funny repution or look funny. So basically be known as abit of a comedian.
I usually start off doing somthing lame to get thier attention.
Me: Would you lovly laides care for a dance? *very slight bow*
Her: Errrrr.... I've got a boyfriend
Me: No no no I don't wanna fvck your boyfriend
or
Me: That's alright i'll do him after you
I honestly use these lol And they always get laughs with younger women, just don't try it on the sophisicated types.
ianlove
Don Juan
My friend had a get together at his house, his parents were away, what do you expect?
So we had a barbecue.
I am glad he is my friend because he invited a helluva lot of quality ladies ;D
So i absorbed the atmosphere for about an hour chatting with the people i knew and enjoying myself.
It was really smoky in the back garden because of the barbecue, something had burnt, but it was here i started introducing myself to everyone.
Then, like that! there was the amazing blonde, not too slim but not exactyl fat. Just right
ME: How do you like yours?
HER: Excuse me
ME: The barbecue, i hope like it burnt because it looks like thats all we're getting.
HER: haha
(Cue extending of hand, good eye contact and a cheeky smile)
ME: and you are?
HER: xxxx
ME: Hello xxxx, I'm Ianlove. Your're very attractive, thats the only reason I am here talking to you (smile and a wink)
HER: haha Thank you Ian
ME: Don't mention it
Anyway, we talked a while and then i asked for her number
ME: We should talk again, give me your number
HER: I have a boyfriend
ME: I'm sorry, you must have misunderstood. I asked or your number.
HER: But I have a boyfriend
ME: I don't want your boyfriend. Anyway, is he your dad or something? won't even let you talk to other people?
HER: hehe, no.
ME: Don't flatter yourself, you're good looking but if i wanted you you'd already be on my arm (S&W)
Thats all i remember. But i did get her number and surprise, she didn't have a bf.
I just do not get it, why do they do that?
So we had a barbecue.
I am glad he is my friend because he invited a helluva lot of quality ladies ;D
So i absorbed the atmosphere for about an hour chatting with the people i knew and enjoying myself.
It was really smoky in the back garden because of the barbecue, something had burnt, but it was here i started introducing myself to everyone.
Then, like that! there was the amazing blonde, not too slim but not exactyl fat. Just right
ME: How do you like yours?
HER: Excuse me
ME: The barbecue, i hope like it burnt because it looks like thats all we're getting.
HER: haha
(Cue extending of hand, good eye contact and a cheeky smile)
ME: and you are?
HER: xxxx
ME: Hello xxxx, I'm Ianlove. Your're very attractive, thats the only reason I am here talking to you (smile and a wink)
HER: haha Thank you Ian
ME: Don't mention it
Anyway, we talked a while and then i asked for her number
ME: We should talk again, give me your number
HER: I have a boyfriend
ME: I'm sorry, you must have misunderstood. I asked or your number.
HER: But I have a boyfriend
ME: I don't want your boyfriend. Anyway, is he your dad or something? won't even let you talk to other people?
HER: hehe, no.
ME: Don't flatter yourself, you're good looking but if i wanted you you'd already be on my arm (S&W)
Thats all i remember. But i did get her number and surprise, she didn't have a bf.
I just do not get it, why do they do that?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Boschy
Senior Don Juan
My two cents ($AUD) worth...I just posted this in another thread before reading this one. Upon hearing this line, I usually say something like this...
HER: "Actually, I have a boyfriend."
YOU: "You have a boyfriend? Well listen. He will be upset about the break-up at first, but over time, he will get over you eventually."
Then I change the subject, as others have mentioned. If she really does have a concrete boyfriend and is not interested, it will become apparent, so the conversation will fizzle and I'll move on to greener pastures. If she's throwing up a challenge or is not keen on the boyfriend, then continuing like it's no big deal is what I try to do. I dismiss her boyfriend claim and just make it sound inevitable that she and I are going to end up together, heh heh. Oh the sweet arrogance of it.
Once when I used this line in a busy club I ended the convo nonchalantly, assuming she was not available and walked away, only to have her whack me playfully later when I walked past her booth. Initially, she was sitting with her gal pal while I chatted her up and gave my response (see above) to her boyfriend line. Her friend was still there and we chatted some more. I got her number and we met for coffee, but it didn't go further.
What I learned was, even if it seems as though you got nowhere, sometimes you unwittingly plant a seed that may bear fruit later.
HER: "Actually, I have a boyfriend."
YOU: "You have a boyfriend? Well listen. He will be upset about the break-up at first, but over time, he will get over you eventually."
Then I change the subject, as others have mentioned. If she really does have a concrete boyfriend and is not interested, it will become apparent, so the conversation will fizzle and I'll move on to greener pastures. If she's throwing up a challenge or is not keen on the boyfriend, then continuing like it's no big deal is what I try to do. I dismiss her boyfriend claim and just make it sound inevitable that she and I are going to end up together, heh heh. Oh the sweet arrogance of it.
Once when I used this line in a busy club I ended the convo nonchalantly, assuming she was not available and walked away, only to have her whack me playfully later when I walked past her booth. Initially, she was sitting with her gal pal while I chatted her up and gave my response (see above) to her boyfriend line. Her friend was still there and we chatted some more. I got her number and we met for coffee, but it didn't go further.
What I learned was, even if it seems as though you got nowhere, sometimes you unwittingly plant a seed that may bear fruit later.
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comic_relief
Master Don Juan
I have a girlfriend that she talked down about and built me up.
Her boyfriend hadn't talked to her in over a month and she was on the prowl. I just didn't let it phase me and eventually started going out with her and have been dating her for the past 8 months.
comic_relief
BTW Ianlove I have never had a woman tell me the lie of having a boyfriend. Maybe it is just because I let them approach me to weed out the uninterested women. They give me the buying signals and actually approach. Its funny as hell not having to do the work.
Her boyfriend hadn't talked to her in over a month and she was on the prowl. I just didn't let it phase me and eventually started going out with her and have been dating her for the past 8 months.
comic_relief
BTW Ianlove I have never had a woman tell me the lie of having a boyfriend. Maybe it is just because I let them approach me to weed out the uninterested women. They give me the buying signals and actually approach. Its funny as hell not having to do the work.
Don Juan 69
New Member
Originally posted by Shezz
Ignore her and carry on with the conversation.
When a woman says - "I have a boyfriend", nine times out of ten what she's really saying is - "You just telegraphed too much interest".
Bottom line is - dont ask about her boyfriend and dont be fazed if she mentions him, just take it onboard that you probably showed too much interest too soon and continue with the sarge as normal!
Sarge On...
I completly agree. Don't act any differenly than if she said "i have a cat". Just ignore it.
007: COol when's the wedding?
HB: ha we're not getting married
And then I change the subject like i never heard anything about a boyfriend.
These 3 are good. the rest of the stuff on this is questionable. Just ask yourself this question and really think about it. Would this advice work in real life. Take it from a Doun Juan who goes to a mostly girls school in NYC. I lot of chicks will just jump to anything to defend their BF unless their A) really attracted to you or B) she's about to break up with him anyway because he's an *******.
Ignore her and carry on with the conversation.
When a woman says - "I have a boyfriend", nine times out of ten what she's really saying is - "You just telegraphed too much interest".
Bottom line is - dont ask about her boyfriend and dont be fazed if she mentions him, just take it onboard that you probably showed too much interest too soon and continue with the sarge as normal!
Sarge On...
I completly agree. Don't act any differenly than if she said "i have a cat". Just ignore it.
HB: I have a boyfriend.comic_relief said:
007: COol when's the wedding?
HB: ha we're not getting married
And then I change the subject like i never heard anything about a boyfriend.
These 3 are good. the rest of the stuff on this is questionable. Just ask yourself this question and really think about it. Would this advice work in real life. Take it from a Doun Juan who goes to a mostly girls school in NYC. I lot of chicks will just jump to anything to defend their BF unless their A) really attracted to you or B) she's about to break up with him anyway because he's an *******.
Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
My favorite response to any girl even mentioning her boyfriend.
If I'm single and it gets brought up..I say something about her being lucky
Her: "Lucky for me huh"
Me: Yeah, that means you've still got a shot, if you play your cards right.
Her: I DO have a boyfriend.
Me: Well I don't.
Her: Well thats good, it'd be kind of akward.
Me: Yah, you AND your boyfriend would end up hitting on me. I guess I'm just too irresistable.
Continue on from there. Just play it off as no big deal, joke around about him. Don't cut him down. It sounds childish when you do.
If I'm single and it gets brought up..I say something about her being lucky
Her: "Lucky for me huh"
Me: Yeah, that means you've still got a shot, if you play your cards right.
Her: I DO have a boyfriend.
Me: Well I don't.
Her: Well thats good, it'd be kind of akward.
Me: Yah, you AND your boyfriend would end up hitting on me. I guess I'm just too irresistable.
Continue on from there. Just play it off as no big deal, joke around about him. Don't cut him down. It sounds childish when you do.
koolbreeze
Don Juan
Yep it's Beach aint it?
But I swear some of the younger women come onto me. and I am 52 and they are like 20 something.. its like Oldermancurious.. instead of bi-curious. Ya fell me. DJs?
very good one, I get kinda fumbly at this reply too.The Sense said:
But I swear some of the younger women come onto me. and I am 52 and they are like 20 something.. its like Oldermancurious.. instead of bi-curious. Ya fell me. DJs?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.