"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i have a boyfriend

*mattster

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please don't flame me for posting this here and not in the archive. but i think i just stumbled upon pure gold... it worked for me

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walking through a park on our lunch break, sat down on a bench...
looking deep into her eyes, smiling, her smiling back, i begin to move in for the kiss... and she drops the "boyfriend" bomb... i've known her for like 2 weeks (a client i worked closely with for these two weeks - very sexually charged the entire time - and she never onced mentioned a boyfriend, but discussed EVERYTHING ELSE in her life in great detail)

her: i have a boyfriend... (sad eyes)
me: (really slowly, talking with a soft, deep voice) that's great... (smiling, pause) all great love stories begin like this (she's looking at me and her eyes light up when i say this)... the only problem i can see is if we don't realise we were meant for eachother, but we both know we're way past that...

then i kissed her (nice and long), got up from the bench, said goodbye and walked off :D

had to really fight the urge to look back at her beautiful, probably perplexed, face. needless to say, she chased me down in about 30 seconds :D

life.is.good
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nice...your missing the most intringuing part...what was her response to the kiss? did she tell you she was lyihg about the bf or was she serious. ? update
 

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i have no clue to whether she actually has a boyfriend or not, and it's not something i worry about. but i do know that IF she WANTED me to know she is/was in a relationship, she would have made that crystal clear, at most a few days into our business "relationship". seriously... the things we talked about - there was nothing she wasn't comfortable with saying to me, so she would have mentioned her BF if she wanted me to know about him. but i don't believe she does have one though, in two weeks i'm sure i would have overheard either a phone conversation or smth like that... and she lives with three roommates... all women. looks like a sh!t test to me :D

when she caught up to me in the park neither of us said anything, she just grabbed onto my arm and walked back into the city with me. i had to go to a meeting on the other side of town, so when we passed my car i said goodbye. she said "you just made my life a little more complicated"
me: i disagree, i've made it really simple
she just nodded and smiled then i left :D

i'll see her tomorrow first thing in the morning for coffee, we'll see what happens then ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ohh..., well he started to flirt a bit, but the girl understands it as a fling. Just something normal. She didn't mention her bf probably to not make the dude jeales. And all that stuff. Now he kissed her, she know it isn't a fling. So is complicated for her now. So he screw up!!!
 

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This is how the the-fvcking-kid does it

biatch: I have a boyfriend
the kid: Oh thats cool im not the jealous type {naughty grin}
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lord Shinra

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The-Kid said:
This is how the the-fvcking-kid does it

biatch: I have a boyfriend
the kid: Oh thats cool im not the jealous type {naughty grin}
That stopped working for me about 3 months ago.

I have to change up my game now :crazy:
 

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Lord Shinra said:
That stopped working for me about 3 months ago.

I have to change up my game now :crazy:

thats coz u cant do it like we do :D im just fvcking with you whats yor new game like?
 

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The-Kid said:
thats coz u cant do it like we do :D im just fvcking with you whats yor new game like?
I usually just :yes:
And then ask the question again.

Something like this.

HB: I have a boyfriend/ I'm seeing somebody
LS: *smiles and nods* *waits a few seconds*
HB: *confused*
LS: Ok, so what is it?

Usually works, but not always.
 

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Lord Shinra said:
I usually just :yes:
And then ask the question again.

Something like this.

HB: I have a boyfriend/ I'm seeing somebody
LS: *smiles and nods* *waits a few seconds*
HB: *confused*
LS: Ok, so what is it?

Usually works, but not always.
haha i'll try it out man but i think "im not the jealous type" will get better results
 

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The-Kid said:
haha i'll try it out man but i think "im not the jealous type" will get better results
Its like real estate.

Location location location.

Where I live, the "Im not the jealous type" line has been pounded into the ground by wannabes who revert back to AFCs. You always gotta change the dynamic I guess.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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