"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i have a boyfriend

*mattster

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please don't flame me for posting this here and not in the archive. but i think i just stumbled upon pure gold... it worked for me

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walking through a park on our lunch break, sat down on a bench...
looking deep into her eyes, smiling, her smiling back, i begin to move in for the kiss... and she drops the "boyfriend" bomb... i've known her for like 2 weeks (a client i worked closely with for these two weeks - very sexually charged the entire time - and she never onced mentioned a boyfriend, but discussed EVERYTHING ELSE in her life in great detail)

her: i have a boyfriend... (sad eyes)
me: (really slowly, talking with a soft, deep voice) that's great... (smiling, pause) all great love stories begin like this (she's looking at me and her eyes light up when i say this)... the only problem i can see is if we don't realise we were meant for eachother, but we both know we're way past that...

then i kissed her (nice and long), got up from the bench, said goodbye and walked off :D

had to really fight the urge to look back at her beautiful, probably perplexed, face. needless to say, she chased me down in about 30 seconds :D

life.is.good
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nice...your missing the most intringuing part...what was her response to the kiss? did she tell you she was lyihg about the bf or was she serious. ? update
 

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i have no clue to whether she actually has a boyfriend or not, and it's not something i worry about. but i do know that IF she WANTED me to know she is/was in a relationship, she would have made that crystal clear, at most a few days into our business "relationship". seriously... the things we talked about - there was nothing she wasn't comfortable with saying to me, so she would have mentioned her BF if she wanted me to know about him. but i don't believe she does have one though, in two weeks i'm sure i would have overheard either a phone conversation or smth like that... and she lives with three roommates... all women. looks like a sh!t test to me :D

when she caught up to me in the park neither of us said anything, she just grabbed onto my arm and walked back into the city with me. i had to go to a meeting on the other side of town, so when we passed my car i said goodbye. she said "you just made my life a little more complicated"
me: i disagree, i've made it really simple
she just nodded and smiled then i left :D

i'll see her tomorrow first thing in the morning for coffee, we'll see what happens then ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ohh..., well he started to flirt a bit, but the girl understands it as a fling. Just something normal. She didn't mention her bf probably to not make the dude jeales. And all that stuff. Now he kissed her, she know it isn't a fling. So is complicated for her now. So he screw up!!!
 

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This is how the the-fvcking-kid does it

biatch: I have a boyfriend
the kid: Oh thats cool im not the jealous type {naughty grin}
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The-Kid said:
This is how the the-fvcking-kid does it

biatch: I have a boyfriend
the kid: Oh thats cool im not the jealous type {naughty grin}
That stopped working for me about 3 months ago.

I have to change up my game now :crazy:
 

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Lord Shinra said:
That stopped working for me about 3 months ago.

I have to change up my game now :crazy:

thats coz u cant do it like we do :D im just fvcking with you whats yor new game like?
 

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The-Kid said:
thats coz u cant do it like we do :D im just fvcking with you whats yor new game like?
I usually just :yes:
And then ask the question again.

Something like this.

HB: I have a boyfriend/ I'm seeing somebody
LS: *smiles and nods* *waits a few seconds*
HB: *confused*
LS: Ok, so what is it?

Usually works, but not always.
 

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Lord Shinra said:
I usually just :yes:
And then ask the question again.

Something like this.

HB: I have a boyfriend/ I'm seeing somebody
LS: *smiles and nods* *waits a few seconds*
HB: *confused*
LS: Ok, so what is it?

Usually works, but not always.
haha i'll try it out man but i think "im not the jealous type" will get better results
 

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The-Kid said:
haha i'll try it out man but i think "im not the jealous type" will get better results
Its like real estate.

Location location location.

Where I live, the "Im not the jealous type" line has been pounded into the ground by wannabes who revert back to AFCs. You always gotta change the dynamic I guess.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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