"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"I have a boyfriend" objection.

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In some of my approaches when I go for the close, I get the classical objection "I have a boyfriend".

Some strategies that come to mind is saying "That's OK, I'm not looking for a girlfriend actually". Or saying "OK, I was just thinking of being friends with you".

On the first one, if it pass the objection, you can turn it into a sexual relationship.

But on the later, it makes the two of you... friends.

Can you tell me what are your tried and working strategies to get past this problem?

Thanks, Starriol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by Starriol

Can you tell me what are your tried and working strategies to get past this problem?

Thanks, Starriol.
Coincedentally I just nailed a Pommy chick on NYE who wouldnt shut up about her borefriend, she even brought him up while I was balls deep in her. The memory is still hazey but the first time she mentioned him I just said "Dont tell me your problems", the second I think I said something like "Obviously not as sexy and funny as me though" and the third time I just started plowing through with my conversation and brought her back into my reality like he never existed.

You should do a search, this has been covered a fair bit.
 

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HB: "I have a BF"

Me: "Not a problem - I'm not the jealous type"
 

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Well how long into the set do you go for the close?

When I hear anything about boyfriends I use boyfriend destroyers because thats the only thing that i know that could overcome the bf situation.
 

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^^^ This problem arises much more often when I try to number close after 2-3 minutes of initiating convo.
I do this when I have no chance of keep the convo going.

Nice to know it anyway...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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