"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"I have a boyfriend" objection.

Starriol

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In some of my approaches when I go for the close, I get the classical objection "I have a boyfriend".

Some strategies that come to mind is saying "That's OK, I'm not looking for a girlfriend actually". Or saying "OK, I was just thinking of being friends with you".

On the first one, if it pass the objection, you can turn it into a sexual relationship.

But on the later, it makes the two of you... friends.

Can you tell me what are your tried and working strategies to get past this problem?

Thanks, Starriol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by Starriol

Can you tell me what are your tried and working strategies to get past this problem?

Thanks, Starriol.
Coincedentally I just nailed a Pommy chick on NYE who wouldnt shut up about her borefriend, she even brought him up while I was balls deep in her. The memory is still hazey but the first time she mentioned him I just said "Dont tell me your problems", the second I think I said something like "Obviously not as sexy and funny as me though" and the third time I just started plowing through with my conversation and brought her back into my reality like he never existed.

You should do a search, this has been covered a fair bit.
 

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HB: "I have a BF"

Me: "Not a problem - I'm not the jealous type"
 

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Well how long into the set do you go for the close?

When I hear anything about boyfriends I use boyfriend destroyers because thats the only thing that i know that could overcome the bf situation.
 

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^^^ This problem arises much more often when I try to number close after 2-3 minutes of initiating convo.
I do this when I have no chance of keep the convo going.

Nice to know it anyway...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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