"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I hate (*&)&*#$ planes
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I used to have to travel alot for a job and hated flying at times,especially the little puddle jumpers.
The Flying without Fear book is pretty good, but my route cause of fear, is related to lack of trust in the system and knowledge of engineering. The 737 bolt incident that occurred recently on the Chinese flight does nothing to help although miraculously the people escaped.
So what's my solution? Hit the bar before a flight if possible. If it's a morning flight I've been known to mix up a drink in my car in the parking lot before going. Always works for me. I get so drunk I don't give a crap, but I'm careful to be quiet getting on the plane. Pretty easy to get kicked off for being drunk nowadays.
www.fearofflying.com
Compare these to the more down-to-earth transportation - the motorways or the railways. The National Transportation Safety Board (NTSB) stated that your chances of being killed in a motorcar accident is 1 in 5,000. If you decide to travel by train, your odd of dying due to a train crash is reduced to around 1 in 400,000. In an airplane, it varies from 1 in 400,000 to 1 in 10,000,000 depending on the reputation of the airlines you are going to travel on.
Here is another better way of explaining the statistics. In 1996, the NTSB came up the statement that scheduled commercial airlines had a fatal accident rate of 0.026 per 100,000 flying hours. Translated very simply, this would show that a passenger would have to fly 24 hours a day for over 400 years before he would be involved in a fatal accident!
he 10-year survey compiled by Dr Arnold Barnett for the period 1987 to 1996 indicated that the mortality risk per flight for International jet in the advanced world was one in five million. That is equivalent to taking a random flight everyday for about 13,000 years (5,000,000 divided by 365 days) to be involved in a fatal crash! In the lesser ranking airlines, the mortality risk per passenger flight is in the region of around 1 in 400,000. Even with this lower rate, you still have to take a flight every day for about 1000 years before you are likely to be involved in a fatal accident! Sounds incredulous?
To convince you further, let’s compare flying to traveling by automobiles. According to National Transportation Safety Board, using 1994 as a year to make these 2 comparisons, scheduled commercial airlines had a death rate of 0.04 per hundred million passenger miles. The same rate for automobile was 0.86. So traveling by automobile is 21 times more dangerous than air travel!
Sure convinced me to fly....
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Don Juan
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I agree. Flying makes me nervous too, but not to the point that I can't handle it. I know it's safe statistically, but I still can't get over the fact that I'm 7 miles above the ground moving at 600mph in basically a tin can with wings knowing that all it takes is one bolt to come lose to chain react into a disaster. I mean damn, that concord jet went down in flames because the tire bursted.Ricky said:I think flying puts alot of us in touch with the concept of mortality more than other things.