"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I hate (*&)&*#$ planes
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I used to have to travel alot for a job and hated flying at times,especially the little puddle jumpers.
The Flying without Fear book is pretty good, but my route cause of fear, is related to lack of trust in the system and knowledge of engineering. The 737 bolt incident that occurred recently on the Chinese flight does nothing to help although miraculously the people escaped.
So what's my solution? Hit the bar before a flight if possible. If it's a morning flight I've been known to mix up a drink in my car in the parking lot before going. Always works for me. I get so drunk I don't give a crap, but I'm careful to be quiet getting on the plane. Pretty easy to get kicked off for being drunk nowadays.
www.fearofflying.com
Compare these to the more down-to-earth transportation - the motorways or the railways. The National Transportation Safety Board (NTSB) stated that your chances of being killed in a motorcar accident is 1 in 5,000. If you decide to travel by train, your odd of dying due to a train crash is reduced to around 1 in 400,000. In an airplane, it varies from 1 in 400,000 to 1 in 10,000,000 depending on the reputation of the airlines you are going to travel on.
Here is another better way of explaining the statistics. In 1996, the NTSB came up the statement that scheduled commercial airlines had a fatal accident rate of 0.026 per 100,000 flying hours. Translated very simply, this would show that a passenger would have to fly 24 hours a day for over 400 years before he would be involved in a fatal accident!
he 10-year survey compiled by Dr Arnold Barnett for the period 1987 to 1996 indicated that the mortality risk per flight for International jet in the advanced world was one in five million. That is equivalent to taking a random flight everyday for about 13,000 years (5,000,000 divided by 365 days) to be involved in a fatal crash! In the lesser ranking airlines, the mortality risk per passenger flight is in the region of around 1 in 400,000. Even with this lower rate, you still have to take a flight every day for about 1000 years before you are likely to be involved in a fatal accident! Sounds incredulous?
To convince you further, let’s compare flying to traveling by automobiles. According to National Transportation Safety Board, using 1994 as a year to make these 2 comparisons, scheduled commercial airlines had a death rate of 0.04 per hundred million passenger miles. The same rate for automobile was 0.86. So traveling by automobile is 21 times more dangerous than air travel!
Sure convinced me to fly....
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Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I agree. Flying makes me nervous too, but not to the point that I can't handle it. I know it's safe statistically, but I still can't get over the fact that I'm 7 miles above the ground moving at 600mph in basically a tin can with wings knowing that all it takes is one bolt to come lose to chain react into a disaster. I mean damn, that concord jet went down in flames because the tire bursted.Ricky said:I think flying puts alot of us in touch with the concept of mortality more than other things.