"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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HOSS83

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On Saturday night, a girl approached me at a bar and said "Look, I'm leaving, but I'm really attracted to you, and I'd like to get to know you sometime"... so I got her # and tonight we went out for a few drinks.

The conversation was awesome, she's cute and a sweetheart, a great catch for sooooo many guys, but the whole time she was sitting there I couldn't stop thinking to myself, "You're going to lead this girl on and hurt her."

I kissed this girl goodnight, and she's probably smiling and telling her roommates what a great time she had - and I'm sitting here depressed thinking about how I'm going to make this girl cry...

I guess I'm just babbling here, but does anyone ever feel the way I do right now?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How interested in her are you? Do you see her as just a lay or a potential relationship?
 

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Well, this was the first time we hung out, and it was cool. She's not "my type" - I'm real picky - and I don't want to hurt her.
 

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Originally posted by HOSS83
Well, this was the first time we hung out, and it was cool. She's not "my type" - I'm real picky - and I don't want to hurt her.

You don't like the girl then end it and don't be such a pvssy. You keep this charade going and you are going to end up in the alter marring her.

DjDamage
 

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Well if I were you i would tell her what chicks tell us guys all the time - "Let's Just Be Friends"

If you like hanging out with her than tell her you're not looking for a relationship right now but you still want to be friends. She should understand.

Dont worry about hurting her, thats the thoughts of an AFC.

If you tell her you wanna be friends she definately wont be hurt by that - in fact the complete opposite - she'll probably be even more attracted to you.

Remember - The focus is on YOU not on her
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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