"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I guess sometimes things work out in the long run

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Some of you may or may not remember this chick I work around at my job, The "Hot mom" as I call her. Only 21 and 3 kids. Well, she was kind of friendly with me, flirting and such, I knew she had kids but I had a thing for her, I mean, c'mon, she's hot. Well I took her flirting as her being in to me and I got the balls and asked for her number. I got it. Then crap went down hill, things got awkward at work and for a while there we did not talk to each other besides a whats up here and there. She did inform me she was seeing someone. After a bit I just stopped talking to her and every so often she would say hi or something and I would respond back. I did notice her looking at me every so often as well.

Well the last couple times she talked to me, I thought I would talk to her a bit more. Tonight she started to talk to me again, bringing up the point that I had a car, that I lived in the same place as before. She was wanting a ride. Well, okay, I did hit her up for a couple rides, but I still don't drive. I told her that, asking what happened to her car. She tells me. I tell her about the only ride I would be able to give her is a piggy back ride (I was a bit serious).

While I was talking to her, I was actualy looking at her face, something I did not do before. I also noted something else which brings me to the point of my post, Sometimes things may work out in the long run....

I bombed trying to get with this chick. I was constantly nervous around her. Never could get her to hang out with me. But perhaps that was a good thing good for a couple reasons. Why? Because a while later I actualy got my first date with another girl (and eventualy 2nd date) and the other reason...

This hot mom is now prego... again.. about 4 or 5 months prego which is about when I started to talk to her. I thought she might have been relationship material... how wrong I was
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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slitherjef said:
This hot mom is now prego... again.. about 4 or 5 months prego which is about when I started to talk to her. I thought she might have been relationship material... how wrong I was

Why on Earth would you consider a 21 year old woman with 3 kids "relationship material"? You trying to have a rent - a - family?
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Why on Earth would you consider a 21 year old woman with 3 kids "relationship material"? You trying to have a rent - a - family?
I know better now, thanks to this site :D
 
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