"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I got the skills, I don't get practice material :(

Lockheed

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I started with self improvement (including women) about a year ago in my senior high school grade, unfortunatly I was already known by a lot of people, and I could get rid of my nerdy stereotype.
However I would meet tons of chicks froms friends, I surely atrracted a lot of girls, but at the time I had a gf so it was just for fun.
Im now at college (I made a post before lol), Im studying electrical engineering, and there are like 30 women in the WHOLE college, only 2 of them hot, and taken.
I dont want to return to my old friends, because they are very afc, and to be honest I get kinda deppresed with them.
The kids at my college are even more afc, and while Im befriending them, they dont go out, they dont drink....
So im now here kinda alone, no friends, sitting infront on my pc on saturday, I dont want to pass my college days like this :down:
how do you guys recommend getting new friends?, its not like I could cold approch guys :crackup:
The worst thing it's that I begin to feel that long forgotten feeling of desperation.... :(
(I do go out alone but it gets boring very fast)
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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daygameguy

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sometimes when people ask questions, they already have an idea of what the answer is, they just don't wanna believe it is the actual answer because it seems too outside of their comfort zone.

You seem confused. Your personality needs to be revamped and you need to approach girls outside college, without any motive of getting laid or having a gf. That kind of commitment without motive, offers a long term gain. That's what self improvement is all about.

Stop ranting. All of us have problems. We can write books on our problems.. each person on sosuave has some. So stop ranting and work hard to get your dreams fulfilled.
 

Poonani Maker

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Well dude, this is a tough one. Join a cult? Where you live could be a problem too, as in some places, people are unfriendly/unresponsive so trying to open them up is a no-go.
 
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