"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I Got Rejected-see The Details.....

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YUP, its true although I wrote a pickup book, post tips in here, have slept with a slew of women......LAST NIGHTS DATE LASTED ALL OF 4 MIUTES.

THE PROBLEM/MISTAKE: i am average looking at best, 2 summers ago I worked out on my abs like crazy, got tanned, shaved the chest and took a really nice pic with my shirt off (mistake by the way).......posted that pic. Present day my tan is gone, oil on chest gone, hair darker and I wear shirts on dates......

GIRL: Prior to the meeting she adored my humor, loved my profile, great phone game, looked forward to my emails and text messages........WHEN WE MET she was upset that I did not look like my pic and her body language revealed that quite harshly. See having a glamour shot and not looking exactly like that pic in real life OFTEN BACK FIRES ON YOU........I could not even spit any game.......she was soooo not attracted........so I ejected to save what little respect I had left.

STATS: only about 10% of the people who post pictures look BETTER in person, 60% look worse, 30% look similar, and NOT TO FORGET......some post fake pics less than 1%. Posting old, out-dated, photo-shopped or shirtless pics end up biting in the butt.

PHILOSOPHY-I could spew some words like "if a chic is so wrapped up in a picture and that shallow, blah blah blah".......in reality us average men have to deal with the realization there are governing laws that dictate attraction. If it just aint there, best to move on.

LESSON TO BE LEARNED: online deception may backfire, know your target, and your limitations, not everyone will find you attractive. Post more than one pic.

GOOD NEWS: the next day 4 new chics with phone numbers were willing to meet.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Seriously, stop postingg your bullcrap. We're not interested in your stupid theories based on nothing but your own 'observations' that go against academic research.

This is like your 3rd/4th or 5th post about looks. You seem to only be bothered with looks and nothing else. Stop posting.
 

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So you're saying she somehow saw through your shirt and was able to tell that your chest didn't look like your photo?? Sounds like you had a date with an airport security scanner because no living woman can do that. :D
 

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Please stop it with these bullsh*t f*cking percentages. And you talk about being average, stop being average! You can't change your facial structure, but you can change your hair (head, face and body; groom differently), clothes, musculature, and I'm sure you can get a tan (it's summer! At least where I live).
 

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those sats that I spew are based upon a concensus.....ask any hot chic who get emails, lets say 100......50-60 look nothing like their profile, its a fact a very small percentage post fake pics for various reasons, 10% of the people actualy do look better in person, their image just does not transpose well through any lens. WHY NOT 20%-30%........again from a ton of people, from stats that i read or saw on Tv, from my own findings and experience......

very few people look a lot better in person......I mean that in a factual way, not just an opinion.......if U factor in all the editing tools, lighting, shading, computer pixels, digital tvs, etc ,etc.........how can anyone look better in person.......some do specifically 10%.

Do your own research........ask your fiends.........U may find similar results.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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the article was about rejection and attraction......how it can instantly go awry, if your likeness deviates slighty form the pic.
 

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LESSON TO BE LEARNED: online deception may backfire, know your target, and your limitations, not everyone will find you attractive. Post more than one pic.
pure gold.

so what point are you trying to make from this? that looks are important? well women think differently from men, yeah looks help a lot, but thats obvious.

However, they're not essential by any means.. helps your confidence though.
 

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LOOKS ARENT ESSENTIAL............LOL........now thats funny.

FACT-good looks make almost everything in life that much easier......ONLINE, SPEED DATING EVENTS, BAR HOOKUPS, JOB INTERVIEWS, BEING ON TV, YOUR VALIDITY, GETTING FAVORS, PERCEPTIONS, ETC ETC.

Sorry to tell ya but if your are born with model looks, and know how to exploit it to your favor........your life will be that much easier.
 

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COD said:
LOOKS ARENT ESSENTIAL............LOL........now thats funny.

FACT-good looks make almost everything in life that much easier......ONLINE, SPEED DATING EVENTS, BAR HOOKUPS, JOB INTERVIEWS, BEING ON TV, YOUR VALIDITY, GETTING FAVORS, PERCEPTIONS, ETC ETC.

Sorry to tell ya but if your are born with model looks, and know how to exploit it to your favor........your life will be that much easier.

I get it COD.... By claiming that your looks are the essential tool to attracting women, it makes it all that easier when they are simply... not attracted.

when women focus only on your looks, You can give yourself that false sense of security knowing that you cannot "control" your looks, which means that she isnt actually rejecting YOU.... right..??

I call BULLSH!T

Attracting women is more about your APPEARANCE than it is your looks brother. A persons "well mannered Appearance" is less subjective than looks are.

Worry about the things you can control, not the things that are simply easier to use as an excuse.

men find it so easy to blame there failures on their "looks" ...rather than swallow their pride, work on being the best person they can be physically AND mentally, fixing their INNER GAME as well as their outter, and taking the time to realize that their looks arent the problem, their mindset is.
 

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Looks aren't essential. I've had a profile on an online dating site with one picture that hides the fact that I have very short hair/shaved head all the time, because I have a winter hat on.

This has NOT prevented me from being successful. Stop putting the blame on yourself and realize that this girl was probably just a b!tch. I actually think one pic may work in your favor by having more mystery associated with you. Not every girl will react positively to you when you first meet them, but that goes for anywhere.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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