"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I got rejected by 3 girls (2 were fat) in 10 seconds!!!

andy25

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Me and my buddies went to a club a couple days ago and there was this one hot chick i was eyeing the whole night so I decided to go upto her and asked her if she would like to dance. She simply said "no"

I was so shocked cuz this chick was giving me the smiles and looks all nite.
I had no clue what to do as I was caught off guard since I was too sure she would have said yes. I guess it was because I was too embarrased and didnt know what I was doing, i turned to one of her fat friends and she said " no".

i looked at the third girl, this one was like a baby rhino. She didnt even look at me when she said no.
I was so embarrased.
i wanted to die
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kbomb

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Wtf? Then you gave up and called it a night?
 

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I was so embarrased to continue being there so i left.

never felt that much embarrasement
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dedication

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The way you live, the way you learn. Once more you learn a lesson!
 

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The fatties only said no because their friend said no first. If they would've said yes their friend would've looked down on them, so they had to say no. Why did you even ask them to dance in the first place?
 

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You DLV'd yourself by going for her friends.

Lesson Learned- Never try to pick up women in packs.

Once a woman says no to you all her friends will reject you out of spite because they weren't your first choice.
 

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Vidrio said:
The fatties only said no because their friend said no first. If they would've said yes their friend would've looked down on them, so they had to say no. Why did you even ask them to dance in the first place?
THIS.


They only said no because their friend said it first. And not trying to make you feel more like **** but you super boosted their ego that night
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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So ****ing what? She wasn't an easy catch, so she said no, she wanted YOU to work for HER. And in such situation, what do we say again? Exactly:**** her, approach a different girl, or atleast have fun. If she sees that you dont give a **** anymore she will be eager to dance with you.
 

Fatal Jay

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This dude is a rookie


the two fat girls, wanted to dance with you, but being they was in a pack, they went with the first girl

even afc know this, you have to be a professional to go for a girl in a pack, that's suicide for a rookie
 

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So fvckin what? STOP CARING, man. Do you know what you're worth? Then what the fvck do you care about some stuck up bytch and her hippo girlfriends? You're still the same same guy you were before you approached them, your worth as a person did not drop after you got rejected by them.

Know who you are, and know that you are still a great guy after some cvnt rejects you. Women are fvckin worthless anyway, man. They lie, they cheat, they manipulate, they act like spoiled little kids, they have no honor, they get butthurt over stupid sh!t, they totally SUCK. Good looks don't change a thing about that. They are pieces of sh!t wrapped in fancy golden paper...

And her girlfriends didn't even HAVE good looks. In other words, what the fvck do you care if they reject you?

Don't put bytches on a pedestal, man. They totally don't deserve it and you totally don't have to feel bad about being rejected by them.
 

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irocknike23 said:
THIS.


They only said no because their friend said it first. And not trying to make you feel more like **** but you super boosted their ego that night
yup. in addition to the other females following their leader, you also gave off desperation.

next time, start with the fattie first. and lastly, after one rejection from a girl in a group, call it quits with group.
 

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I dont dance with random dudes I meet at clubs. I generally go to dance with my friends. Most guys at clubs are skeezers and only care about your bod.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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foreverAFC

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rearea said:
Most guys at clubs are skeezers and only care about your bod.

thats what guys only care about no matter where you are
 

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Never again will I ask a girl to dance again. I dont care if she stares at me 4 hours. She can approach me if she wants from now on. I aint making a fool out of myself never again
 

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I think it's best to have a conversation first, assuming the place isn't deafening.

Open and see if she (or her group) feels like talking to you. IF and only IF the conversation goes well, THEN mention dancing.

I then ask, "Are you a good dancer?" or say "Let's get out on the dance floor" and I see how she responds.

I NEVER had any success just randomly asking a chick to dance with no other conversation. It was usually a disaster. I still lol at this one...

Mike: <walks up cold> Wanna dance?

HB: <cold stare / b@tch shield>

Mike: <Takes this as a no. Starts to walk away>

<HUGE guy appears. He literally opens his lips to bare his VERY large and SHARP teeth at me like some wild animal. You can't make this up.>

Teeth: <Literally GROWLS like a bear> 'DATS MY GIRL

Mike: <whispers to his wing> We gotta get out of here.

Mike's wing: <whispers> why?

Mike: I'm about to be attacked by F-ing J A W S!!!!!

<Mike and his wing slip out the door. Mike never does a cold dance request again>

But funny stories aside, it's either conversation first or in rare cases when she asks me to dance. I rarely cold request to dance at a bar/club. (At most, I might try non-verbally by putting my hands out.). I can only do cold verbal requests in class or a formal dance.
 

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rearea said:
I dont dance with random dudes I meet at clubs. I generally go to dance with my friends. Most guys at clubs are skeezers and only care about your bod.
that's what the majority of women are they for. maybe youre the exception to the rule
 

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andy25 said:
I was so embarrased to continue being there so i left.

never felt that much embarrasement

your problem is you are a puss%

I get rejected by well over 20 people sometimes in one night unfazed....don't be embarrassed about some weak woman telling you no....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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