"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I got a reply from a model on IG, what to reply back

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I messaged this women:

-hey beautiful, I am an interesting man(yes, lame first message).

Surprisingly, hardly any beautiful women on Instagram reply back, this one did.

Which she replied:

"Is the interesting man in the room with us"?

I'm not sure how to read around this reply?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hahaha she got you good with that lame opener.

“We’ll see if he decides to come - Have you traveled to any exciting places this year?”
 

Stephen89

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Ok, it looks like she isn't interested. Then why bother replying.
 

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I'm not sure how to read around this reply?
That message indicates that she years for you, with the same ferocity she yearns to return home from The Amazon, with a souvenir

such as this
 

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Act lame, get grouped into the same 95% bucket as other guys they roll their eyes at.

Why send something like that if you already know it's lame?
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It was a lame opener. I am surprised he got a response.

Ignore this, work on better openers if using DMs on social media. Better yet, go out into the real world and do approaches with good openers.
 

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I messaged this women:

-hey beautiful, I am an interesting man(yes, lame first message).

Surprisingly, hardly any beautiful women on Instagram reply back, this one did.

Which she replied:

"Is the interesting man in the room with us"?

I'm not sure how to read around this reply?
Thats not a good opener to use. Besides being lame and arrogant, it puts you in a position to qualify yourself to her which is never good.

I would have found some interesting pic of hers and teased her/asked a question about it/made a funny comment.
 

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Don't send the gorgeous woman money before you meet him her.
 

Stephen89

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Thats not a good opener to use. Besides being lame and arrogant, it puts you in a position to qualify yourself to her which is never good.

I would have found some interesting pic of hers and teased her/asked a question about it/made a funny comment.
Would you give an example in this situation on what you would have written to tease her/make a funny comment?
 
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