"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok, so i dont have a social life and im gonn ask her on friday OVER the phone if she has any plans. if she doesnt, then what should i do?
 

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Well... generally thats the point in the conversation when you suggest an event or place that you want to take her.
 
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Originally posted by we all eat food
Ok, so i dont have a social life and im gonn ask her on friday OVER the phone if she has any plans. if she doesnt, then what should i do?
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Good job. If she doesn't have plans... then just ask her to go somewhere with you.
 
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I agree with the Tuesday deal. Chances are, if you call her friday, it's too late. If shes not busy at 7pm on a friday night, then chances are, shes a loner.

Call Tuesday, Wednesdays at the latest. Have something in mind BEFORE you call. This eliminates the akward "What do you wanna do" stuff. If she says shes available, and then you ask if she wants to go (insert plan here) and she either doesnt want to, or says she can't. End the convo there. Just be like, "Alright, thats cool. Well I'm headin up there with a couple buds anyways on Friday. Whenever you change your mind just give me a call" and then say your goodbyes
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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