"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

I got a good one for ya...

V

Vendetta081789

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2008
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
I've never posted here, but have a decent amount of experience with women. Not looking for an answer to anything. I just want opinions on the situation. Because as we all know, in the end, every man with self dignity will handle it his way anyways.


There's this woman. She was lesbian, until she met me. I started dating her, and things were spectacular. Everything was fine and we have clicked great. She wanted to go to this lesbian/gay club she used to go to with some friends. She also wanted to bring me along. Some girl hit on her, but she blew her off. We got back to her house, and I headed home. We txt'd each other goodnight. Then she said her friend wanted her to go meet up with two chicks(Her friend is still lesbian.). One of the chicks just so happened to be the one that hit on her. I come to work next morning, and she told me she hadn't slept yet. I asked what happened. She responded to me, "Baby, I really like this girl...". Obviously my knees got weak ><. We are still dating, but I fear she may be about to break up with me for another girl. What I have done so far, is try to keep things normal and not be worried. My thought process is that if she really likes me, she'll choose me in the end anyways. Responses anyone?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

S

Skepsis

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 22, 2007
Messages
62
Reaction score
1
Location
California
Vendetta081789 said:
There's this woman. She was lesbian, until she met me.
Click to expand...
Wrong. She is a lesbian.

Women think they can make gay men straight. They can't.

The same applies to delusional men.
 
J

jp98502

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 21, 2008
Messages
57
Reaction score
1
ill laugh if she leaves you for a chick....joking
id try to get them both. hhehe
 
V

Vendetta081789

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2008
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
That just goes back to the age old argument of whether or not being homosexual is a choice, which I wasn't intending to get into. Focus more on the matter at hand, act as if she were interested in another guy. The sexes are irrelevant as the situation would be the same were it a guy she liked...Please continue however.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

S

Skepsis

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 22, 2007
Messages
62
Reaction score
1
Location
California
If my date said, "Baby, I really like this [guy.]"

Then I would be singing Paint it Black.

So you can do that and get over it. Or you can not do it and get over it.

Either way, she's well on her way to being over you.
 
V

Vendetta081789

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2008
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
Skepsis said:
Either way, she's well on her way to being over you.
Click to expand...
Could be. I also considered the thought that maybe it is a subconscious defining moment in our relationship. Kind of seeing if she is happier with or without me.
 
A

ARrocket

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2008
Messages
1,411
Reaction score
37
Location
East Coast USA
No, the sexes are not irrelevant. They could be, but you can't say that for sure. Maybe she realizes that a man is not what she is interested in, so as soon as a girl comes along....

If this was a man, you wouldn't put up with the BS for long. But since this could create a nice opportunity for you....lol
 
J

just so suave

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 29, 2007
Messages
228
Reaction score
0
Location
England
Read through the articles on this site and the DJ bible, maybe you'll be able to get the spark back. Good luck, if you know its about to end though, suggest you, your GF and the new girl have a 3 sum :) it would be a nice goodbye lol.
 
M

MacAvoy

Banned
Joined
May 10, 2003
Messages
2,940
Reaction score
35
Location
Northern Ontario
Your allowing your fantasies to cloud your judgement. It has no bearing on the situation that she is an ex lesbian. How would you feel if she said to you "hunny I really like this other guy". She's totally disrecting you.

I'm willing to be she's already munched the new carpet.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

D

DonJaunStupidity

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 25, 2008
Messages
13
Reaction score
0
Vendetta081789 said:
I've never posted here, but have a decent amount of experience with women. Not looking for an answer to anything. I just want opinions on the situation. Because as we all know, in the end, every man with self dignity will handle it his way anyways.


There's this woman. She was lesbian, until she met me. I started dating her, and things were spectacular. Everything was fine and we have clicked great. She wanted to go to this lesbian/gay club she used to go to with some friends. She also wanted to bring me along. Some girl hit on her, but she blew her off. We got back to her house, and I headed home. We txt'd each other goodnight. Then she said her friend wanted her to go meet up with two chicks(Her friend is still lesbian.). One of the chicks just so happened to be the one that hit on her. I come to work next morning, and she told me she hadn't slept yet. I asked what happened. She responded to me, "Baby, I really like this girl...". Obviously my knees got weak ><. We are still dating, but I fear she may be about to break up with me for another girl. What I have done so far, is try to keep things normal and not be worried. My thought process is that if she really likes me, she'll choose me in the end anyways. Responses anyone?
Click to expand...
Have you slept with this lesbian?

Secondly, regarldless of the sexual orientation of the person in question, the fact of the matter is she talked about the other girl to you simply because she wants to dump you. Sorry to burst your bubble.
 
V

Vendetta081789

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2008
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
Bubble not busted. Yes I have slept with her. Thanks for the wishes of luck. Don't really want to lose a great woman like this, but these things happen. There are more women to come.
 
D

DonJuan11

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2007
Messages
1,667
Reaction score
35
Vendetta081789 said:
I've never posted here, but have a decent amount of experience with women. Not looking for an answer to anything. I just want opinions on the situation. Because as we all know, in the end, every man with self dignity will handle it his way anyways.


There's this woman. She was lesbian, until she met me. I started dating her, and things were spectacular. Everything was fine and we have clicked great. She wanted to go to this lesbian/gay club she used to go to with some friends. She also wanted to bring me along. Some girl hit on her, but she blew her off. We got back to her house, and I headed home. We txt'd each other goodnight. Then she said her friend wanted her to go meet up with two chicks(Her friend is still lesbian.). One of the chicks just so happened to be the one that hit on her. I come to work next morning, and she told me she hadn't slept yet. I asked what happened. She responded to me, "Baby, I really like this girl...". Obviously my knees got weak ><. We are still dating, but I fear she may be about to break up with me for another girl. What I have done so far, is try to keep things normal and not be worried. My thought process is that if she really likes me, she'll choose me in the end anyways. Responses anyone?
Click to expand...

ROCK < VENDETTA > HARDPLACE
 
I

I.A.F.Y.B.

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 18, 2007
Messages
2,051
Reaction score
21
Location
USA
Try and set up a three way!! If she is still a lesbian and has those feelings for other women. You most likely won't be in a exclusive relationship. Hell, she might say she likes you but, likes women better. I wouldn't get in a serious relationship with her. Keep her around for the good sex but, also get sex from straight women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

V

Vendetta081789

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2008
Messages
52
Reaction score
0
We split up today. End of story. Remaining friends at best.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top