"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I got a girl convinced I'm not an AFC anymore

00Kevin

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ok.. before I came to this site I was a bit of an AFC and I had a hard time with girls.

At that time there was a HB8 that I had a oneits for. The reason I could never get her was because she didn't view me as a man. She thought of me as a friend and used me as an emotional tampon. I tried everything to get this girl and showed that I really cared about her and that I wanted to love her. I did everything that women say they want and had no success.

Well, now over 3 years have passed since I have up on her and put her on my next list.

Since that time, she has called me every few months and has noticed a change in my conversations and my behavior. I haven't realized it myself but she has. She now says that I'm older and more attractive and wants to 'spend time' with me. The good thing is I now know that she is only a w=hore and won't be of any value to me.

Now that I've reflected on this I've come to the conclusion that there are some things you can do to remove yourself from the friendszone.

Here are some of the things I said that in our conversations. I never even realized what I was doing and it was never my intention to convince her of anything. I just viewed her as a dirty little w-hore and that was that.

1. I told her that every time she mentions a guy I just assume that she is f--king him.
2. I always joked about her being a little w-hore and got her to admit to her nympho problems.
3. I once told her about how I just want to take the asian girl at work and fu-ck her on my desk.
4. I never called her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Good for you man!

Eventually, coming to this site changes your way of thinking and after a while, you won't even have to think about it, you just act different because you think different because you are different.

Even though some might go through a little bit of a 'jerk'phase, most actually turn out to be better men.
 

Jaun_Don

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Originally posted by Caveman
Good for you man!

Eventually, coming to this site changes your way of thinking and after a while, you won't even have to think about it, you just act different because you think different because you are different.

Even though some might go through a little bit of a 'jerk'phase, most actually turn out to be better men.
It's good to go through that jerk phase though it makes you stronger and the attention seekers find it hard to handle and can't walk over you anymore.
 

00Kevin

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I agree, in order to balance both sides of the scale you have to experience each.

A DJ is in the middle and it really is a balancing act
 

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If you want my personal input, I think this girl is a wh0re and is meerly responding to the fact you are talking dirty; not because you are more of a man.

If she was a non-wh0re she would give you shy-horny vibes and change the subject away from the sexual aura, but I think girl mostly just likes the sexual attention period and whatever goes down isn't going to matter much or be worth anything.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by rgeere
If you want my personal input, I think this girl is a wh0re and is meerly responding to the fact you are talking dirty; not because you are more of a man.

If she was a non-wh0re she would give you shy-horny vibes and change the subject away from the sexual aura, but I think girl mostly just likes the sexual attention period and whatever goes down isn't going to matter much or be worth anything.
yes she is a who-re.
 

ImSoHorny005

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yes those "it's almost impossible to get out of a friendzone" is bull****. i made it very easily with tens of girls i knew in my afc days. its really easy, just dont try too hard ;)
 
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