Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
:crackup: Bwaaaahahahahahahahahaha!!!!! :crackup:My Name is Nobody said:NO you DI'INT!
ahh man that sh!t still stings like hell.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
:crackup: Bwaaaahahahahahahahahaha!!!!! :crackup:My Name is Nobody said:NO you DI'INT!
ahh man that sh!t still stings like hell.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia said::crackup: Bwaaaahahahahahahahahaha!!!!! :crackup:
And you're surprised about this because????.....My Name is Nobody said:what the hell is so funny? Don't bring her up again.
I found out the other day the whole office knows about our relationship. And she is the one who told people.
:crackup: Not with the way you were acting dude! I'm sure people were curious about what was going on between you two.My Name is Nobody said:...
I thought it was a secret...
You are "Mr. Popularity" aren't 'cha?My Name is Nobody said:...
Now I know why that AFC who stalked her looks at me likes he wants to beat my a$$.
Cedd, does this answer your question?My Name is Nobody said:...
Just talking about her puts me in the foulest mood ever. I feel like I want to shoot myself.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mavrick said:How about ending this thread.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You - a DJ? :crackup:My Name is Nobody said:Now that I think about it, she just seemed nervous the whole time and she couldn't think of anything to say.
I bet she just can't believe she has met a DJ like me and she doesn't know how to act. She keeps waiting for me to be weird, psycho, or all of those in one.. AFC.. and it's not going to happen.
Because 99 percent of guys, by the second date have probably become AFC.
James45 said:You - a DJ? :crackup:
My Name is Nobody said:Don't be jealous.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
James45 said:Don't be that guy my friend, I'm only helping you out.
How did you turn this around into a date Friday? You left that part out.My Name is Nobody said:Well, I just nexted this b!tch... can you believe this?
I login to my messenger today at noon and she had sent me a message "Sorry, I have to work tonight. I just called and confirmed. Give me a holla or I'll just give you a call later"
I should have just said "fine" but I had to get a little worked up and say
"a phone call would have been nice"
Then she pops online (she must have been invisible) and starts with her b!tchy attitude.
She's like "blah blah I told you I might have to work we only went out once and you are acting like this? YIKES"
I was like "WTF are you talking about? I don't care if we go out again, and I don't care if you have to work. All I'm saying is a phone call would have been nice."
Then she's like
"you have an attitude, you don't care if we go out again?"
Then I told her I was going to call her on her attitude weeks ago.. and then I told her don't worry I'll call her 10 times tonight to see how she's doing.. LOL.
I was joking about that ofcourse, then I deleted the b!tch from my messenger and my phone. I'm pretty sure she is lying about working tonight. She told me she works a second job on the weekend at some small retail store. I'm sure she's on call for that.
Whatever .. Did I jump the gun on this or was nexting the right thing? I'm just sick of the attitude and games. Any last minute funny message I can hit her with? yeah... tired of wasting my time.
Nope, it was the same girl...amoka said:I believe he has a date with a different woman.
After I was a jerk and nexted her in that chat, she texted me that night. Then I tried to call her again since she texted me. And ever since she has been texting me every night.ketostix said:How did you turn this around into a date Friday? You left that part out
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.