I get really self concious around all women

[guittarjedi]

I get really self concious around all women. I've noticed that when I'm at work and I'm around a woman I become self concious and clumsy. In one of David D's DVDs, he says that women notice if a man is disrupted by her feminine energy. For some reason I become extremely disrupted by feminine energy, especially if I know the girl.

Sometimes it's hard for me to think straight if I'm doing a task at work and a women is nearby. This makes it very difficult for me to be smooth . I guess it's a kind of performance anxiety. On the DVD, David D doesn't give a remedy for this problem. Do you guys have any suggestions? Maybe some kind of NLP based techniques?

-guittarjedi

 

[Caveman]

Stop putting women up on pedestals.. They are only human. If you need to, try and see them as dorky girls themselves. They are nothing more than you and downgrading them in your mind could work. It might also help to assume from the start that they are into you so you are the one in control.

 

[flexion_]

The key is to get your own energy. See if you have you have your own life you won't worry about other people around you.

Start working on your physical appearance. Start playing some sports. Get yourself busy with things that improve your career, relationships with friends, health, fun stuff.

Then you'll create your own energy that won't be influenced by a women's in your proximtiy.