"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i get numbers, i call, but i have nothing to say

sh0kka

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does anyone else have this problem? i have no trouble getting girls numbers, or getting them attracted to me, but i know one thing, that is if you call a girl, small-talk and the ability to hold a conversation is important, however, i have trouble doing that over the phone, in person its easy, but over the phone its hard.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Heyjose25points

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I also have this same problem. When its person to person, its much easier to hold a conversation but when its over the phone its much harder. I think the reason why its harder is because u don't have that non-verbal communication. In a one on one convo, u can see their body language, face expression. But with a phone convo, u can only get the verbal feedback.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Here's more of the crap of DJ wannabees so game on getting a number and not knowing what to do with it, it's a waste of effort. If you suck at phone conversation why not just get the date with her while you're talking to her instead of getting a phone number which you can't use?
 

chronic99uk

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Surely the first call you make shouldnt be a massive convo?
If you get numbers, just mention in convo something about the night in question, maybe what food she likes if your taking her out ot dinner, or if she would like to go to a quiet bar.

The the next phone call after that will include some of the many things you listened to and took in about her week, or life etc etc?

Thats the way i do it.
Maybe talk about yourself.?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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