“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I found out why my GF is so emotionally stable...

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How far a long into the relationship are you?

A girl that shares this gem with me pretty early on I see as a gigantic red flag. And as we all know, they may appear "stable" at the beginning of things, then suddenly flip the psycho switch.

Just looking out for you brother.

But yes, I agree. Doctors need to come out with an almighty pill that makes woman less crazy. I would even help fund that sh!t.

-Scars
 

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Ran from one of those, takes some SSRI and Lithium.
Wasn't ready to date nutty after just surviving a 14 year marriage with a cluster B.

Turned her into a FB.
Now I service her between her two month victims.
It works.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Caveat: Over time a lot of these bipolar medications adversely affect the metabolism and these girls will suddenly pack on some serious weight. But if you are cool with having a drug-dependent borderline-psycho fatass as your dime piece then who am I to argue?

FWIW I've dated plenty of women who did not need any medication to be a decent human being.
 

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Danger! Danger Will Robinson!!
 

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Desdinova said:
She told me she was diagnosed Bi-polar, but she faithfully takes her pills every single day. Every fvcking woman should be on that 5hit.
Be careful my friend. You know the drill. This is serious stuff.

You would not have posted this if it did not concern you. But, you should be concerned. Let us know if you need to talk.
 

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Dear Des,
Oh Mate!,take care....In a long previous post,I mentioned in passing that when I take a Lady out for a while I take a look at what she has medication-wise in her Bathroom vanity unit,took a bit of flack from the Girls' blouse brigade....six years ago Red warning Bells started ringing with a Lady I had carted out for about a month,took a Little Bo-Peep in her Bathroom,couldn't make out what she was taking but wrote the names down....Yup a BPD,and didn't she run true to form....forewarned is forearmed.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm confused. In another thread you wrote this yesterday:

Desdinova

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I've found mine, and we're getting divorced. The worst part about the whole thing is I found mine AFTER I joined this forum and had been posting regularly.

Being with the wrong woman TWICE is enough for me.


And now you are saying you are with a bipolar woman WHILE you are getting divorced for the second time to another woman? Some of you guys just love the drama don't you? I don't get it.
 

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Bipolar I and II are amazingly common diagnoses. The lifelong prevalence of bipolar disorder in the United States is around 1% to 1.6%. BPI occurs equally in both sexes; however, rapid-cycling bipolar disorder (4 or more episodes a year) is more common in women than in men. The incidence of BPII is higher in females than in males.

Epidemiology aside, I'm not convinced all the diagnoses are made on a sound clinical basis. Basically I think behavioral b!tches are sometimes written off as having Bipolar disorders, where in reality they just need an attitude adjustment. Just my opinion though. My catalytic oneitis in college was Bipolar. She was unpredictable to say the least, but there were other factors at play there.

Anyways, this isnt new territory for you, Des. Maybe probe a little deeper and find out if she is the depressive-predominant type or the manic-predominant type....might give you some insight as to what you can expect if she ever gets off meds; for pregnancy, insurance, or some other reason. :nervous:


(Reference: http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/286342-overview)
 

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Man...there are no clean deals.

I think when you guys became serious she should have shared that with you. I think 8 months is long enough...but varies from relationship to relationship. Too soon I do think is inappropriate.

Here at the forum the BPD is like the antithesis of the don juan..next to the "nice guy". Maybe I should say the arch nemisis. In the sense that the Don Juan is 100% game..and the BPD by nature in the long run is un-gameable.

Not sure what you going to do. Especially with the investment (time/emotion) you have made. But you have experience with this. Plus you see all the posts surrounding BPD women.

Touchy situation.
 

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SecondHalf said:
Ran from one of those, takes some SSRI and Lithium.
Wasn't ready to date nutty after just surviving a 14 year marriage with a cluster B.

Turned her into a FB.
Now I service her between her two month victims.
It works.

the s3x is great isn't it :)
 

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Espi said:
I'm no expert on bipolar disorder, but a family member of mine was involved in a long-term relationship, and his bi-polar GF, for whatever reason, would stop taking her meds, and her depression would quicken to the point that she wouldn't get out of bed.
I have a friend who had that happen to him. He had no clue she was bipolar until right after they got married. She stopped taking her meds, went batshît, and threatened him at gunpoint.

Desdinova, you're playing with fire.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Next thing you may find out is that she has Herpes and never told you about that either.
 

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cordoncordon said:
I'm confused. In another thread you wrote this yesterday:

Desdinova

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I've found mine, and we're getting divorced. The worst part about the whole thing is I found mine AFTER I joined this forum and had been posting regularly.

Being with the wrong woman TWICE is enough for me.


And now you are saying you are with a bipolar woman WHILE you are getting divorced for the second time to another woman? Some of you guys just love the drama don't you? I don't get it.

He is obviously talking about his former wife being his perfect match that didn't work out, and then his current girlfriend who he thought was the right one and is turning out to be another whackjob.

Duh , you need to keep up with the Days of Our Sosuave program.
 

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BPD is not Bipolar. They are 2 very different things. One is a mental illness (BPD or Borderline Personality Disorder) and the other is a mood disorder (Bipolar). I wanted to clarify as it seemed some people were using them interchangeable. Also, Bipolar you can medicate, BPD you can not. The later sometimes will take prescriptions, but they are hardly effective and there is no BPD pill.
 

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Des!
What are you doing? Sure there's no clean deals, but this falls outside the realm. Get out while you aren't too entangled. That's my 2 cents. Every woman that I dated that was...on meds, or should have been on meds....I count my blessings that I didn't either wind up getting an STD, a unwanted pregnency, or worse. I'm sure it isn't easy. You've been dating her for awhile, you feel a connection...etc. Be honest tho....You KNOW that she has MAJOR issues now. This kind of issue won't go away, it won't get better, and it's ALWAYS in the closet ready to come out.....
Sorry to hear about this, but when a woman is honest she's TELLING you in hopes you'll white knight.
Don't do it.
KC
 

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An ex of mine has OCD so badly that she said she couldn't leave the house, had to stay home to organize everything and cry that it wasn't perfect. That was before Paxil. Now she is a state's attorney, and doing very well. It's a night and day difference with the Paxil.

Of course it is impossible to make a thread on sosuave about a girl without everyone telling you to dump her, but the one thing you might check is if she can have kids while on her meds, if that is something you want. My ex can't ever have children while on Paxil, and she can't cope without it, so I don't see her ever having kids.

All that matters is that you are happy. Good luck with everything.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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