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I Told My Fiancé I Wanted to Finally Start Planning Our Wedding. Then He Dropped a Bomb on Me.
I've been tricked.
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You gave this Chad 6+ of your best years, and all he did was consume them, and spit you out.I’ve been engaged to my boyfriend for six years. We thought we would get married sooner but between moving to another state and establishing ourselves in our fields, it has taken us several years to be financially stable. Recently, I mentioned to him that I wanted to start planning the wedding and he dropped a bombshell saying that he wants to keep living together but he doesn’t really believe in the formality of a wedding and that the government shouldn’t intervene in our lives, it’s an antiquated sexist custom, it’s a needless expense, etc.
Yes, but you had chosen a Chad thinking that you could seal the deal, and instead he has left you to go back to the tournament, now 6 years older than your competition. Choices ...We’ve had several discussions and he won’t budge. I know his reasoning is practical; for example, he says we could take a trip to France rather than spend money on dinner and a dress I’ll only wear once, but I love the idea of a wedding. My sister says he isn’t serious about me if he’s not willing to make this commitment, and I see her point. She says plenty of other men would give me the wedding instead of dashing my dreams. I’ve invested six years of my life with him and I don’t know if I want to break up with him over this single issue, but I am increasingly snapping at him and fighting. I don’t know what to do. I feel I’ve been tricked and now I’m trapped.