"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I finally talked to her

Buck Naked

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I finally talked to the girl ive been going after for three years, Leah. Granted it i went after the AFC way and had a representitive go over and tell her someone who though she was sweet wanted to meet her, but it got the job done. And at this point, i dont care.

She was at the bar with her friends, but she came over alone. She had a big smile on her face when she saw it was me who wanted to meet her. Her friends left us alone talking, which i thought was good. And she wasnt in a hurry to leave me. Ive met her b4, i know one of her roomies, but i was half in the bag at the time.
The conversation went well, no ackward moments, and she talked majority of the time. In the end she left with her friends, but i knew i made a start with her.
The problem is, when i was talking to her, i didnt have the "Fighter" mentality i normally have. Im not thinking like a womanizer. B/C of this i dont make moves, even though i did put my arm around her, but still. Im not the same as when i dont care. And i HATE it!

My question is: Even though i care about her, how can i get that fighter mentality back? Without it im nothing:(
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Crank_It_Up

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hmmm.... it took you 3 years to speak to her? At this rate she could meet somebody, get married, and start a family before you ever spoke to her again.
 

Julian

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grow some fuccing balls.
 

tactic

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clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap clap
 

Omega

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You havn't been going after her if you havn't talked to her.

Get your priorities straight. Taking it slow and finding out your the decorator at her wedding, or speeding it up and creating an opportunity.

Not all doors are locked.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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khanboy

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Congratulations, now for the sake of your deteriorating nut sack, talk to 10 new women tomorrow.

Three years is a long time,
khanboy
 
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