"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I finally got the opportunity to get laid tonight...

donjuanapprentice01

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But, I didn't feel comfortable at all. It was some chick I met on PoF, but only met her last night, and didn't feel comfortable at all doing it with her. She only had a face pic, and although decent, didn't give any info about her body.

Also, she's a native that lives on a reserve, and apparently does a ton of drugs. Not into that. So, while I could have lost my virginity, and now most likely can lose it to this girl, I just don't feel comfortable at all with the situation. I mean, I'd like to at LEAST go out with her for a coffee to gauge the situation, cuz I'm not sure about just going over there and fvcking her like that. Does that sound wrong?

On the other hand, I could have lost it tonight. I dunno if I feel lousy to have not taken the opportunity. Just, wasn't comfortable. I mean, someone whom I've never met in person. I dunno... maybe I should have.

Anyways, peace out.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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qweretyuiopas

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Of course it doesnt sound wrong, just because you are a virgin doesnt mean you should lower your standards or be with a woman you feel uncomfortable around just so you can say Im not a virgin anymore.

You did fine man, like Hitman said, gut feelings never lie
 

blinkwatt

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DJapprentice you did the right thing! Too many focus on losing their virginity at a young age. Think about it,what happens after you lose it?!?!.......
I don't care what anyone says,you should lose it to a women you honestly care about.
 

Brando SC

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You did the right thing. Always listen to your instincts. I like what you said blinkwatt. Don't focus on losing your virginity just cause you can lose it. In my opinion you should lose it to a woman you honestly care about. Cause when it's gone it's gone.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Delta

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yeah,

your first time is still a milestone. while you shouldn't wait for heidi klum to come around, you should be happy with your conquest.

do it when you want.. not cuz you feel you should lose it.

delta
 

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
I dunno if I feel lousy to have not taken the opportunity. Just, wasn't comfortable.
No worries bro. If you DID take this opportunity, you'd feel even more lousy.

This thread would be more like:

"Guys, I just lost my virginity. Great right? Not so much... I barely even knew the girl. I feel lousy. I want my virginity back! I wish I never went over there tonight."

So don't feel bad. You should be happy! You proved your mind is stronger than your d!ck.
 

donjuanapprentice01

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Thanks for the responses, Im sure I made the right choice.

Like I said, I only chatted on msn with her for 20 minutes or so, uncomfortable for sure. But, she could be a psycho for all i know, or out to rob me or something. Plus, big red flag when she says she like to meet guys at her place, for a first date.

so, yeah, don't feel bad about it at all really.

what is PoF?
Plentyoffish.com, free online dating site.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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