Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I finally got the opportunity to get laid tonight...

donjuanapprentice01

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But, I didn't feel comfortable at all. It was some chick I met on PoF, but only met her last night, and didn't feel comfortable at all doing it with her. She only had a face pic, and although decent, didn't give any info about her body.

Also, she's a native that lives on a reserve, and apparently does a ton of drugs. Not into that. So, while I could have lost my virginity, and now most likely can lose it to this girl, I just don't feel comfortable at all with the situation. I mean, I'd like to at LEAST go out with her for a coffee to gauge the situation, cuz I'm not sure about just going over there and fvcking her like that. Does that sound wrong?

On the other hand, I could have lost it tonight. I dunno if I feel lousy to have not taken the opportunity. Just, wasn't comfortable. I mean, someone whom I've never met in person. I dunno... maybe I should have.

Anyways, peace out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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qweretyuiopas

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Of course it doesnt sound wrong, just because you are a virgin doesnt mean you should lower your standards or be with a woman you feel uncomfortable around just so you can say Im not a virgin anymore.

You did fine man, like Hitman said, gut feelings never lie
 

blinkwatt

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DJapprentice you did the right thing! Too many focus on losing their virginity at a young age. Think about it,what happens after you lose it?!?!.......
I don't care what anyone says,you should lose it to a women you honestly care about.
 

Brando SC

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You did the right thing. Always listen to your instincts. I like what you said blinkwatt. Don't focus on losing your virginity just cause you can lose it. In my opinion you should lose it to a woman you honestly care about. Cause when it's gone it's gone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Delta

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yeah,

your first time is still a milestone. while you shouldn't wait for heidi klum to come around, you should be happy with your conquest.

do it when you want.. not cuz you feel you should lose it.

delta
 

Ace of Flames

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donjuanapprentice01 said:
I dunno if I feel lousy to have not taken the opportunity. Just, wasn't comfortable.
No worries bro. If you DID take this opportunity, you'd feel even more lousy.

This thread would be more like:

"Guys, I just lost my virginity. Great right? Not so much... I barely even knew the girl. I feel lousy. I want my virginity back! I wish I never went over there tonight."

So don't feel bad. You should be happy! You proved your mind is stronger than your d!ck.
 

donjuanapprentice01

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Thanks for the responses, Im sure I made the right choice.

Like I said, I only chatted on msn with her for 20 minutes or so, uncomfortable for sure. But, she could be a psycho for all i know, or out to rob me or something. Plus, big red flag when she says she like to meet guys at her place, for a first date.

so, yeah, don't feel bad about it at all really.

what is PoF?
Plentyoffish.com, free online dating site.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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