I finally get it

[TheGambino]

After so much exploring, studying, trying, dating, failing, hook ups, heartache (Which is basically a lack of options in most cases), coming back better and harder. Ive been womanizing for 15 years trying all kinds of women and I come to some conclusions.

all women are the same most ways, they respond the same. They all have their preference but it depends on what stage shes in and what shes looking for but they respond the same to weak and strong behavior.

be kind and fun and have energy but let her do the work. Throw your self out there but read her signs.

live your life, workout dress well, have a purpose a dream and live it. They Will find you. When she Throws signals act upon it and approach confidently.

When you have her and she crosses your boundaries punish her! Punish her by withdrawing attention, flake on her and tell her your busy! If she keeps crossing boundaries disapear forever. A woman can not love a man that she doesnt respect. If she decides to test your boundaries you must warn her and punish her! If for example she flirts with a man in your face you punish her for a Month by not meeting up and then decide if you want to give it another shot.

always be gauging her interest level and always give her the feeling that you can leave any moment. Let her WORK for it, she wants to WORK for it. She wants to EARN your respect trust me. Rock her world, date , have fun rock the bedroom but always have 1 leg out the door, let her see that by being the best version of yourself and showing you have options IN A INDIRECT WAY.

live your life and relationship on your term and she Will commit and respect you. If she crosses it show her immefiatley the Will that you can walk away by walking away and if she doesnt chase you, you disapear forever.

thats what I wanted to give the forum again after so much Living and experiencing.

 

[BPH]

When you have her and she crosses your boundaries punish her! Punish her by withdrawing attention, flake on her and tell her your busy! If she keeps crossing boundaries disapear forever. A woman can not love a man that she doesnt respect. If she decides to test your boundaries you must warn her and punish her! If for example she flirts with a man in your face you punish her for a Month by not meeting up and then decide if you want to give it another shot.

I disagree with this section, and, respectfully, I believe this perspective is what has caused most of your issues with women that you've posted on here about.

Whenever YOU have perceived a woman to be acting disrespectfully towards you, or not with the enthusiasm you expected, you tend to do a 180 and go extremely cold. Historically, that has made the outcomes of your problems worse, not better.

I believe the best reaction is simply not reacting.

She flaked on you at the last minute? Cool, go make plans with someone else.
She said she was going out with the girls, then posted pictures with a bunch of guys? Cool, go date someone else.
She sh** testing you for no other reason than to gauge your reaction? Cool, go meet women who don't play childish games.

When she shows you who she is, believe her, but that doesn't require punishing her - that is an emotional reaction. Now you know who you're dealing with, and can decide whether she's worth further investment of your time and effort.

 

[TheGambino]

I disagree with this section, and, respectfully, I believe this perspective is what has caused most of your issues with women that you've posted on here about.

Whenever YOU have perceived a woman to be acting disrespectfully towards you, or not with the enthusiasm you expected, you tend to do a 180 and go extremely cold. Historically, that has made the outcomes of your problems worse, not better.

I believe the best reaction is simply not reacting.

She flaked on you at the last minute? Cool, go make plans with someone else.
She said she was going out with the girls, then posted pictures with a bunch of guys? Cool, go date someone else.
She sh** testing you for no other reason than to gauge your reaction? Cool, go meet women who don't play childish games.

When she shows you who she is, believe her, but that doesn't require punishing her - that is an emotional reaction. Now you know who you're dealing with, and can decide whether she's worth further investment of your time and effort.

i agree with not reacting. But punishing is actually withdrawing attention just like your saying.

i agree with not overreacting and that is blocking/deleting. Making her jealous etc.
I mean simply doing nothing stop reaching out and just focus attention on other women.

So I actually agree with you @BPH

 

[BillyPilgrim]

i agree with not reacting. But punishing is actually withdrawing attention just like your saying.

i agree with not overreacting and that is blocking/deleting. Making her jealous etc.
I mean simply doing nothing stop reaching out and just focus attention on other women.

So I actually agree with you @BPH

Maybe frame it in your mind as "seeking other opportunities" rather than "punishing".

 

[Bingo-Player]

Issue is most men tend to fall to bits when they meet a woman they deem attractive , so all the bold talk and theorising tends to fall out the window