"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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keto, whoever it was that did it pizzed me off.
there was no reason to go link that whole board here telling them they were in a flame war with us.
there never was a flame war!!!
there was a thread here spoken in military form from one member encouraging others to help speak out over at the other site he was posting at because the views were a little warped. they in turn came here, now thinking we are warped because they do not understand our site.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ketostix said:
LOL. And maybe a little sick to your stomach?

Well, I would never trust or reply to another woman on this site. But I can't believe Iqqi is a man. Hasn't anyone verified this?
 

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penkitten said:
keto, whoever it was that did it pizzed me off.
there was no reason to go link that whole board here telling them they were in a flame war with us.
there never was a flame war!!!
there was a thread here spoken in military form from one member encouraging others to help speak out over at the other site he was posting at because the views were a little warped. they in turn came here, now thinking we are warped because they do not understand our site.
It's just cross cultural communication. We'll get the lingo soon! Your attack provoked a culture shock over at LS it was hilarious to see everyone trying to figure out what was going on.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Well, I would never trust or reply to another woman on this site. But I can't believe Iqqi is a man. Hasn't anyone verified this?
you'd still speak to me right?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The tin man said:
It's just cross cultural communication. We'll get the lingo soon! Your attack provoked a culture shock over at LS it was hilarious to see everyone trying to figure out what was going on.
all i did was lurk, i havent logged into the love shack baby!in maybe 2 years. i can't even remember my password or what email i used back then.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Damn what was that for? I'm going to lose sleep now you hurt my feelings.
it is rare that i flash, so neener neener
 

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Damn what was that for? I'm going to lose sleep now you hurt my feelings.

Don't fall for some woman's cheap trick. Surely an exposed butt won't make you ball up in the corner like a little girl will it? Be a MAN, damn it! I can't stand wussies.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HOMBRE said:
Don't fall for some woman's cheap trick. Surely an exposed butt won't make you ball up in the corner like a little girl will it? Be a MAN, damn it! I can't stand wussies.

LOL good lord, take a joke.
 

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If we're going to interject ourselves into other people's lives why can't we step up and help iqqi with her problem?

I think it prudent that we at least try to offer some reassurance about S/Him's drinking problem.

We have to clean up our own backyard before someone else's.

Whether it was iqqi here who went over to LS is irrelevant. The fact is we have a SSoldier who is wounded and we should help that SSoldier.
 
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Maybe Iqqi and I can hook up as AA partners or whatever it's called. I drink too much also.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nighthawk said:
HOMBRE is attempting satire.
No shyt, Sherlock!:crackup: Ok, you got me.

Nobody, you're hopeless. Put down the beer, k?
 
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HOMBRE said:
No shyt, Sherlock!:crackup: Ok, you got me.

Nobody, you're hopeless. Put down the beer, k?
My bad, I just don't know you well enough yet Hombre! Welcome to the best site on the net.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
My bad, I just don't know you well enough yet Hombre! Welcome to the best site on the net.
I forgive you.

The best site? Not sure about that yet. Certainly one of the funniest and most comical though.
 
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HOMBRE said:
I forgive you.

The best site? Not sure about that yet. Certainly one of the funniest and most comical though.

Definitely the best. What other site changes your life like sosuave? It did take several years though, and it's still work in progress.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Definitely the best. What other site changes your life like sosuave? It did take several years though, and it's still work in progress.
Actually, I've had other forums change my life. I can't speak for this one since I'm new.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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