"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I feel nervous by men because"Men always think about sex"

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Not all men are like this but it's a stereotype. i feel kinda nervous around men because i feel like they are judging every part of my body (whether it's sexy or not) since "they always have sex on their mind"....

most people do say im pretty but i just feel nervous by guys because they are such sexual creatures (most of them)...especially the tall, muscular, gym-lovers who have testosterone all over their body
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Don't you feel eyes moving over your body, Clarice? And don't your eyes seek out the things you want?"
 

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You are either a troll which is what I'm guessing, or unwittingly dumb.
 

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AttackFormation said:
You are either a troll which is what I'm guessing, or unwittingly dumb.
Can you tell me why are you calling me a troll? I bet if a male user asked a question of feeling nervous around women...you guys would definable help him out:rolleyes:

Double standards!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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femaleuser said:
Not all men are like this but it's a stereotype. i feel kinda nervous around men because i feel like they are judging every part of my body (whether it's sexy or not) since "they always have sex on their mind"....

most people do say im pretty but i just feel nervous by guys because they are such sexual creatures (most of them)...especially the tall, muscular, gym-lovers who have testosterone all over their body
Lol, don't flatter yourself. They probably don't look at you that way.
 

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Do you feel nervous all the time or only if you are attracted to the guy checking you out?

If you can tell the guy is attracted to you do the nerves go away? Is it a turn on?

Would you rather guys not check out?
 

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Slickster said:
Do you feel nervous all the time or only if you are attracted to the guy checking you out?

If you can tell the guy is attracted to you do the nerves go away? Is it a turn on?

Would you rather guys not check out?
Only if he's attractive.... If he does like me, I would feel even more nervous because there will be one question at the back of my mind: is he imagining me in a sex scene... And that would make me nervous! I prefer him not checking me out
 

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Don't you have somewhere better to post this nonsense than a men's forum?
 

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femaleuser said:
Not all men are like this but it's a stereotype. i feel kinda nervous around men because i feel like they are judging every part of my body (whether it's sexy or not) since "they always have sex on their mind"....

most people do say im pretty but i just feel nervous by guys because they are such sexual creatures (most of them)...especially the tall, muscular, gym-lovers who have testosterone all over their body
get used to it, because thats what we are doing
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yes, almost every part of your body will be harshly judged. From your chest down to your toes. Unless your guy is a caveman with low standards who hasn't seen a girl since his birth. DEAL with it.


"But you should love me for who I am". Lol
 

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That is a limiting belief. Change your beliefs because it is not going to help you in anyway.
 

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LMFAO said:
Don't you have somewhere better to post this nonsense than a men's forum?
You guys are being very mean and nasty. Whenever men visit women forums, we always welcome them! And you guys are being very mean

If you guys help me out.,.. This will be my last thread. Btw, is it ok if a woman uses sheets to cover up her body during sex? Will it still be fun for you? I don't have low self esteem.. I just don't like being looked at with lust... It makes me feel dirty and uncomfortable
 

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femaleuser said:
Can you tell me why are you calling me a troll? I bet if a male user asked a question of feeling nervous around women...you guys would definable help him out:rolleyes:

Double standards!
The odds of you actually being a female and not a man trolling the forum are low in my eyes, so I don't take your posts seriously. But in the off-chance that you're serious, I called you unwittingly dumb because when you say "i just feel nervous by guys because they are such sexual creatures (most of them)...especially the tall, muscular, gym-lovers who have testosterone all over their body" you don't realise your own projection. It's not the "tall, muscular, gym-loving testosterone guys" who are doing it, it's you doing it to them because they have traits you like and then you blame them because "It makes me feel dirty and uncomfortable" so you project instead. You saying something like that tells me you are either a troll or a woman, but then again because you are projecting and using sentences that include the word "mean", it would not surprise me if you were a woman and not a troll unless you've practised.
 

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femaleuser said:
I just don't like being looked at with lust... It makes me feel dirty and uncomfortable
Sounds like you have some boring sex, jussayin'.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you all are just lame...if u dnt knw wat to say dnt reply...pssh..ok back to u sweetie...ur problem might be that u have a low self-esteem or some kinda insecurity if men are looking at u that way it shows that ur somewhat attracted feel good about ur self and let em look...ur not weird and there is nothing wrong there is alot ur type..and i agree that ur sex life might be boring..u just need to build ur confidence and feel good about ur body
 

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joshy said:
you all are just lame...if u dnt knw wat to say dnt reply...pssh..ok back to u sweetie...ur problem might be that u have a low self-esteem or some kinda insecurity if men are looking at u that way it shows that ur somewhat attracted feel good about ur self and let em look...ur not weird and there is nothing wrong there is alot ur type..and i agree that ur sex life might be boring..u just need to build ur confidence and feel good about ur body
I don't have low self esteem... I just don't want anyone (esp attractive guys) to look at me in a sexual way because it makes me feel "dirty"
 

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You might wanna move to a Muslim country then, over there you can cover yourself with sheets all the time
 

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dk1990S111 said:
You might wanna move to a Muslim country then, over there you can cover yourself with sheets all the time
Actually that's an awesome idea... I can't believe I didn't think about that lol



Thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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