My "best" Friend just told me that he would prefer living with someone else next year. I feel like a guy that has a bunch of "friends" but no real close friends now, since I ditched my real best friend for me education two years ago. I've made a lot of wrong choices the last few years and am wondering what I Should do? Move back to where I was with my formoer best friend who probably wouldn't accept me back or move in with my new best friend who would rather room with somebody else? I really feel horrible knowing that nobody iin the world would prefer to live with me over someone else. I suck with broads so bad that it depresses me to even think about it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I Feel like ****.
- Thread starter SamMalone
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Egoist
Master Don Juan
what the hell, man.
do you need best friends to love you to validate yourself? you are worse than a girl.
It is of extreme importance for a man to have a company of males. Its wonderful to have great friends you can trust.
BUT
Be yourself first. Do whatever is right to get far in your life. Sometimes friends leave, sometimes they betray you, thats life. Don't ever feel bad because at one point you don't have a best friend and the new one is a bastard. Same way that you shouldn't feel incomplete without a woman.
Anyways, move on, be more social, make new friends. Don't sweat it too much. If you had a good social circle, you wouldnt be sweating this BS.
do you need best friends to love you to validate yourself? you are worse than a girl.
It is of extreme importance for a man to have a company of males. Its wonderful to have great friends you can trust.
BUT
Be yourself first. Do whatever is right to get far in your life. Sometimes friends leave, sometimes they betray you, thats life. Don't ever feel bad because at one point you don't have a best friend and the new one is a bastard. Same way that you shouldn't feel incomplete without a woman.
Anyways, move on, be more social, make new friends. Don't sweat it too much. If you had a good social circle, you wouldnt be sweating this BS.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Did he tell you why?
If he didn't, whatever. If he wanted to do this and you succeed in convincing him otherwise, it still wouldn't be a good idea because I'd imagine that it would be awkward.
Why do you have to live with anyone at all? Why not live by yourself? There are many advantages:
- No quarreling about house rules.
- Less trash generated.
- No concern about who's turn it is to do different chores.
- Fewer dishes to wash.
- When you have friends over, there are no conflicts with the other residents, since there won't be any.
- No wondering "who's cup was that?"
- Sharing the living room isn't necessary.
- Less food consumed, so it could mean fewer trips to the grocery store.
- No collection for the roommate's share of the utility bills, since you pay them all yourself (not a big deal since one person would use less than two).
- No wonder which things belong to who (i.e. that's Bill's television, but Bob owns the couch, etc.).
- You'd have ultimate control over everything.
- Many more.
These are just a few things that I can think of. There might be advantages to living with others, but I have no experience in doing so (the only other people I've lived with are my parents, and I'm an only child). However, I don't see why you can't just live by yourself.
Ben
If he didn't, whatever. If he wanted to do this and you succeed in convincing him otherwise, it still wouldn't be a good idea because I'd imagine that it would be awkward.
Why do you have to live with anyone at all? Why not live by yourself? There are many advantages:
- No quarreling about house rules.
- Less trash generated.
- No concern about who's turn it is to do different chores.
- Fewer dishes to wash.
- When you have friends over, there are no conflicts with the other residents, since there won't be any.
- No wondering "who's cup was that?"
- Sharing the living room isn't necessary.
- Less food consumed, so it could mean fewer trips to the grocery store.
- No collection for the roommate's share of the utility bills, since you pay them all yourself (not a big deal since one person would use less than two).
- No wonder which things belong to who (i.e. that's Bill's television, but Bob owns the couch, etc.).
- You'd have ultimate control over everything.
- Many more.
These are just a few things that I can think of. There might be advantages to living with others, but I have no experience in doing so (the only other people I've lived with are my parents, and I'm an only child). However, I don't see why you can't just live by yourself.
Ben
Living alone is GREAT.
Of course, every task is your responsability. But this is GOOD.
At least when you don't do something, you know it's your fault. What about if today's the day of your roommate doing the dishes and he just don't? pure stress.
I'll never regret the decision of living alone.
Of course, every task is your responsability. But this is GOOD.
At least when you don't do something, you know it's your fault. What about if today's the day of your roommate doing the dishes and he just don't? pure stress.
I'll never regret the decision of living alone.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
To Djbr:
Finally, someone else who agrees with me!
Whenever people learn of it, the two most common questions I was asked were:
"Isn't it boring?"
"Don't you get lonely?"
They just don't understand. Plus even if those things were issues, they are issues that are fairly easy to resolve, while still living alone.
One idiot even said "It must be really boring. You must wack-off six times a day." He definately doesn't get it.
Ben
Finally, someone else who agrees with me!
Whenever people learn of it, the two most common questions I was asked were:
"Isn't it boring?"
"Don't you get lonely?"
They just don't understand. Plus even if those things were issues, they are issues that are fairly easy to resolve, while still living alone.
One idiot even said "It must be really boring. You must wack-off six times a day." He definately doesn't get it.
Ben
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.