I feel life is going no where for me

[warrior1]

Hey fellas dont wanna make this sound like a sad story b/c you know that is completely sissy. Anyways, I'm 21 year old guy whos almost 22 very soon. I am pretty sure theres many people like myself that is young but nothing goes on with their life. Of course there is no excuse for that besides take action like the DJ bible says. I should have already graduated college already but I am a 1 year or 1.5 years behind b/c i had to change my major last semester after i screwed up.

A few things about me. I'm not tall or short... about 5'8 Asian so maybe on short side by for Asians in U.S its pretty average. I have lot of friends that are still in school being behind as well and some that are graduated. Unfortunately, most of them are guy friends. Anyways, i know anything you want to do you need motivation b/c that is what drives anyone to do anything. I don't go to clubs or bars but always wanted to go. The thing is i always ask my buddies to go and all of them look at me like crazy. They all still stay at home play video games Xbox 360 , ps3, and wii.

Most of them are very introverted. I use to be very introverted but ever since i read conversation articles, i am beginning to do pretty good for myself. A lot of my friends say when i talk, i am very energetic which is definitely good.

I enjoy sports, music and like poker. I remember last few years i always wanted to turn 21 as fast as possible so i can gamble and play poker at the casinos. Up into today, i think i only went to casino like 3 times only. The reason is b/c none of my friends are interested and they keep saying they dont have money. None of us have a job at all and this is about 7-8 people, 2 of them are very close. I have one good friend that is doing good with an internship paid which makes me feel very good b/c he feels very motivated.

Its like I always tell my buddies whether they are real close or not, lets go to a bar this friday or hit or the casinos for a good time. They say no money but they spend money on xbox wii and ps3 and games. I say who cares about gambling, lets just catch some free shows then or get some drinks. They always keep looking for excuses for not coming.

And i know everything people say about social circle. The thing about me is if you just see me in the street or anywhere and dont know me, you probably think i look cool b/c i do dress good and have style. But most of friends all care about video games and just watch movies online when they can just have fun.

The thing is i am very motivated to do things but it is I am always going to have to do it by myself. On my bday last year, i went to casino by myself none of my friends wanted to go. I know they are good friends but its like they have no drive. Its like if i had a friend that feels excited AND SHOWS IT when we go play poker at a casino or anything exciting, I would feel real happy. This summer i wanted to go to Atlantic City every week or just stay for a few nights. None of my friends are interested and just say stop gambling when they aren't doing anything productive at all... i mean video games? Its like we are kids. We are all pretty much 22-23 already.

I am not sure if i am one of those people that has motivation but if none of their friends have motivation at all, then YOU start saying ahhh forget about it and dont even bother. Its like anything that seems fun, I am on my own now. I always wanted to do crazy stuff like sky diving and i am horrified by heights but not 1 of my friends are interested in any things.


Anyone can just give me some insight. Thanks fellas.

 

[Dole]

Friends this, friends that. You rely on your friends too much. Either become independent or find a new social circle.

Since you like poker so much, make new friends at the poker table at the casino. I know I have, but never hung out with them.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Im 22 and i should have graduated too, no big deal. You seem to know yourself well and you have the majority of your pieces in place, except for a social circle. Since you have hobbies, find places where you can partake in them while meeting new people.

 

[warrior1]

thanks raiders. Where do you go meet people or think is the best places?

thanks pal.

 

[Brandonc662]

I really don't understand the overwhelming amount of post about "my friends don't want to go out/ do the things I want to do". Do you people really need to be asking this question. Can you not think to yourself "Hey I cannot have fun with my friends, why dont I go meet people with the same interest/intent as me and befriend them".

You people need to get out of your comfort zones and do the logical thing. You dont need to have 50 people tell you what you already know is the solution.

 

[Brandonc662]

thanks raiders. Where do you go meet people or think is the best places?

thanks pal.

You use common sense. If you want friends that gamble and hang out at casinos then GO TO FvCKING CASINOS and make friends.

GO TO THE PLACES YOU ARE INTERESTED IN BEING and make friends there. IF THE PEOPLE YOU BEFRIEND ARE THERE THEN THEY WILL MORE THAN LIKELY BE INTERESTED IN SIMILAR PLACES YOU WANT TO GO.

 

[comic_relief]

Hi Warrior,

I felt the same exact way and I got to say that I no longer feel this way.

I thought to myself, "Comic, why are you so bored and feel like you are stagnating?" I then came up with a list of things that are the reason for the stagnation (my girlfriend helped me out with this part).

We realized that the thing was that I was not being challenged enough by myself. My friends are the same way and could not do a damn thing about them. The only thing that I had control over was myself and how I reacted.

I began working on that and all of my hard work is paying off because with $300 and a fixed up road bike, I will be accomplishing a 350 mile/25 day bicycle tour of PA visiting three state parks, a state university, friends and family, and visiting the girlfriend at the very end.

My advice to you is figure out what is wrong and what is in your circle of influence that you can change and then change it. Don't wait because it doesn't get better with waiting. You are in charge of yourself (and don't bring down anyone talking to me about free will vs. determination).

comic_relief