"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I feel hopeless

newplaya

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I feel hopeless, i know i have interest in women but i'm gradually losing interest in women, lost my confidence in meeting or attracting women and feel like i'm not turned on by women like i used too, i'm feeling very awkward in my own skin now.

I feel like i am gay man, i'm losing myself.

Please help me what i should do, i've ordered David DeAngelo's doubleyourdating advanced program 2 nights ago, and i've ordered kevin bates anywomenanywhere 2 weeks agos (but i dont like what he teaches).

What should i do to get my motivation back with women??? I'm feeling heaps lazy and blaming it on work...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Luveno

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I think the problem here is that you're fixated on "success with women".

STOP!

Find success within yourself first. What does that mean?

Get good at something. Get a good job. Get money. Get an education. Get yourself on the ground firmly. The women will follow.
 

DJ Hawtness

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Don't be a loser, go out there and keep trying. There are plenty of tips here to up your game, and you can't put any of them to use unless you TRY constantly.
 

newplaya

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Could someone provide me a bit more constructive feedback.

Also i love David DeAngelo's stuff but i have been out of field for a while now, and i ordered his system does anyone ever tried his program? What's your feedback on his program?
 

Chrispy

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Go and work out and play lots of sports. You sound like you are losing your competitive manly spirit, thereby your drive to find women is going down. Not everything is about getting a woman or always being interested in them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LongDrinkofWater

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Yeah, what I'm reading in all of these responses is basically a message of becoming a well rounded guy. Work out. Pay attention to grooming. Read. Try to mold the kind of life for yourself that you would find fufilling and exciting. Women will pick up on this and want to get some of what you have..........
 

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You're getting burnt out because you don't like having to go out of your way to try and meet women, and get rejected, or have to put with all the BS to keep a woman if you get one. Women get burnt out because they get "played". Athletes get burnt out because they lose their edge. Struggling musicians and actors get burnt out because they are ont successful.
Couldn't have said it better. At the start of the year I was full of fire, macking on the ladies everyday and everywhere. Now I'm burnt out, bored with women, I'm looking for some excitement an adventure. Hopefully I'lll get my swagger back. I hope to build a war chest of interest/hobbies that will keep my attention.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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Actually did an approach today, it had been about 3 weeks since my last one. I was rejected, but it felt good to actually be back in the game. My swagger is slowly limping back in. Man just play the game rejection or not.
 
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