I feel broken

[Mr Wright]

Background: Met a girl, fell in love, now we're in a sort of long distance sort of open relationship because im at uni. Now we both know we're going to drift apart but the real problem is i feel like ive lost my sexuality. In this last month, i just havent felt myself when it comes to girls, its like ive taken a step back...or more a step sidewides, im not really interested in screwing any of them, just kinda being friends with them. I havent hit on a girl properly for months because i just feel so guilty because even though my girl says its ok, my last girl said that too and it turned out she was so hurt by it. So now i feel like a one girl fella with no girl.

I go out, i see a beautiful and im attracted to her, sometimes im even talking to her, looking into her eyes and i can feel the chemistry but then i just pull back and i dunno...i feel broken.

Anyway ever experienced anything like this because im still the same cheeky chap but now when i go out, its to socialise and girls dont even come into it but i kinda miss it.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Id break up with the girl and stop watching porn and masturbating, also start working out.

 

[Mr Wright]

Im not "with" her to break up with her though. Like i got with a girl a few weeks ago and i felt so guilty after...thats just not me.

Also my masturbation habits have never affected me in the past, bit of an assumption right there.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Im not "with" her to break up with her though. Like i got with a girl a few weeks ago and i felt so guilty after...thats just not me.

Also my masturbation habits have never affected me in the past, bit of an assumption right there.

Does that mean you're not gonna try? Don't ask for help if you're not prepared to fix it.

 

[Mr Wright]

Oh i want to fix it, i just dont think thats very good advice.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Oh i want to fix it, i just dont think thats very good advice.

Fair enough. What do you base your conclusion on?

 

[Mr Wright]

The fact like ive always enjoyed masturbating, so thats not the variable(if im going to get all scientific on it)

 

[The Keem]

I think DJs is the thing i'd do myself... but if i get it you say that you're down because you know you will break up? then go to some party , chill or whatever and rethink about what you want to do but you should really fix quick because if you don't do sh*t you feel like sh*t

 

[LearningSlowly]

The fact like ive always enjoyed masturbating, so thats not the variable(if im going to get all scientific on it)

No, it very easily could be the variable. Maybe you were a more interesting person before, so girls were more interested in hooking up with you. Maybe you happened to have a higher sex drive then. Whatever the case, what was true then, when you were getting girls, is not true now. SO CHANGE THE NOW.

Quit masturbating, work out instead. You feel like you've lost your sexuality. What could be more obvious than refusing to give yourself sexual relief unless it's with another human being? Testosterone from exercise can't hurt either.

NorwegianDJ has some knowledge, don't be so quick to write it off.