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[taiwanesedude227]

For some reason, when I go to parties I just lose every bit of DJness that I have built. I've pretty much mastered C&F in one on one conversations, body language, etc, but once I go to like a house party where people are just messing around, I can't PU for sh*t. I think it's because of other guys, they always dominate the conversation and they always get all the attention by doing all this crazy sh*t, while I'm more of a talker.For example I know a guy that is really quiet, i DESTROY him when it comes to making girls laugh in one on one convo, but at the party he just does lots of funny actions and gets all the girls laughing while I got no attention at all. the girls seem to be entertained by people who just do funny things and act like retards and they don't even pay attention when I try to game them because they're so busy being entertained by the other guys. I always become a WBAFC when i'm in a group... one on one I dominate.. but when there's other guys or other girls and they just start acting crazy my game just seems really weak.. i don't even know why, i'm more of a smooth talker than those other guys who are just acting like freaking clowns.. what should i do?

 

[DJ4Real]

Don't worry about "gaming" women at parties.....Do things that "stand out"....It'll grab womens attention to you....

Just play your cards right....

 

[taiwanesedude227]

that's the problem... i can't bring myself to do that crazy kind of stuff that the other guys are doing (all this weird stuff like sticking their ass into the girls faces), its just not me and it feels really unnatural

 

[DJ4Real]

You don't have to do "crazy" things.....depending on what you mean by crazy....You can just be ****y and funny.....Put yourself in the mind of 007 James Bond (sean connery)...If you've seen any of his movies.....do you see how he acts? He's cool and casual about things...no matter how big the crowd...he still gets his....be ****y and funny...and relax.

 

[MetalFortress]

Look, don't listen to that dude who just posted above me. You're 16 and at any age but ESPECIALLY that age, girls don't want a talkmonster. Being a DJ is not about talking a girl to death. You're boring. You're talking her to death. Be crazy. Have a little fun! It's only unnatural cuz you've never done it before.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Listen to Metal, he knows what he's talking about.

You're just giving excuses for your failures. I'm not the "loud, wild guy" that you're speaking of, but I still get mine. Stick to what you do best, approach a girl one-on-one. If you're any good with conversation, which you said you are, you'll see success.

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
Look, don't listen to that dude who just posted above me. You're 16 and at any age but ESPECIALLY that age, girls don't want a talkmonster. Being a DJ is not about talking a girl to death. You're boring. You're talking her to death. Be crazy. Have a little fun! It's only unnatural cuz you've never done it before.

Who said anything about "talking girls to death?" That is some BS you came up with....don't sit here and try to disqualify my opinion because you don't agree.

Acting crazy and having fun are different....acting crazy is busting beer bottles on peoples heads and running around a party butt naked with comb in your hair....

Having "fun" is making jokes, making decent and INTERESTING conversation, mingling around etc....,

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by TyTe`EyEs
Listen to Metal, he knows what he's talking about.

You're just giving excuses for your failures. I'm not the "loud, wild guy" that you're speaking of, but I still get mine. Stick to what you do best, approach a girl one-on-one. If you're any good with conversation, which you said you are, you'll see success.

The focus is to "get his" in a comfortable fashion...and obviously, since what he is doing "isn't working," so he needs to change, right?

So, my suggestion modifies his style....so he doesn't have to "act crazy"....acting crazy...and having fun...two different categories.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Originally posted by DJ4Real
The focus is to "get his" in a comfortable fashion...and obviously, since what he is doing "isn't working," he needs to change, right?

So, my suggestion modifies his style....so he doesn't have to "act crazy"....acting crazy...and having fun...two different categories.

Alright DJ, I guess you're 4Real. No, he doesn't have to change what he's doing. Maybe he's just hanging out with the same people all the time. If he's any good with one-on-one, which I personally am, he's going to get laid.

4Real.

 

[DJ4Real]

4Real...of course I am. .

In this particular situation, he isn't one on one.....he is around many many people.....so, he does have to modify a little "according to him." He has to be comfortable around the crowd, or else he won't be successful.

Think of it like this.....what if the President (of any country), wasn't comfortable speaking to the millions and billions of people that "look up to him."

Yeah, he'd have a hard time exuding the necessary confidence of a leader....and people wouldn't be attracted to that...

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

I'm all about having a good debate, but we're obviously not on the same level. It doesn't matter what situation you're in, if you're good with one-on-one conversation, you're going to pull a female sooner or later.

I've been to a few parties in my day and I've always stuck to what I do best, one-on-one conversation. Girls always love a good conversation, party or not.


Good luck to all of you.

 

[DJ4Real]

There is a difference as to when you're talking around several women....say 15 or maybe more...and you're talking to a single woman one on one......Than one on one talk. But, do want works for you....as I mentioned "do what is most comfortable."

Whatever it is that you do is working for you....but, it's not working for him...so yeah, we are on different levels about his situation.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Everyone should do what is most comfortable to them, but this is what he said is most comfortable to 'him'. You're acting like it isn't possible to pull a girl to the side and talk to her. Even if you're in a big party, you can always run it how you want to.

DJ, I'm not doubting your knowledge of girls, I'm just giving good advice from personal experiences.




Maybe I should post a bunch of pictures to prove myself...Nevermind, that's kind of gay.