"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I downloaded an Alpha Male body lenguage PDF but I don't quite understand it
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
2. You read Diesels guide to bulking up
3. You implement it by going to the gym and eating well
4. After a while your body language will be the best it can be
Don't try to fake it by trying to change your body language mentally, I did this for way to long and it never really worked all that well. The reason is you think too much. Now lifting however will take care of bad body language.
Brian20o2
Master Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
sam21 said:and that's because my english isn't very good.
So, it would be nice if you guys post good body lenguage tips. How to walk, sit, where to put your hands and stuff
I'll probably understand you guys..
cya :box:
Send me the e-book and I'll help you understand it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
everywomanshero
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Lifting can help in two ways.
A) If you do it correctly and develop a balanced body, you're going to have Perceived improved body language automatically through improved appearance. People use the halo affect to attribute good traits to people they already perceive positively. Good looks (in this case, a nice body) therefore provides a compounding return. There is also the arguement that the muscles will provide better posture, stance, etc. I am not really qualified to comment, but I guess it might be true. I think I'd join a gym with a good personal trainer or take Weight Lifting as an instructed, college course if that's available. Some courses just turn you loose in the gym, but even so you'll get at least an orientation and your progress will be measured. Plus, it's generally cheap at community colleges compared to a gym pass.
B) You will definitely increase your confidence. Even if you never plan to use those muscles to intimidate other people, you cannot help but feel more confident for having them. Since much body language is actually generated internally, this new internal dialogue will literally show in your lack of wussie mannerisms. See in third grade when girls didn't like sex, you could be a total wuss and be the cool kid. Now, you're confised, because you still think being a wussie can be cool. NO. Now that you're grown women want guys who are going to be good in the sack/around the house. It's better to go overboard on the tough guy stuff than the wussie stuff if you're not sure where you are in this process. Actually, in the beginning it doesn't matter as much as in a relationship. Girl's really get picky about you being a wuss once you're past the 1 month mark, good looks and personality will carry you for so long even if you act a little wussie. If you continue acting like a wussie, she will eventually get rid of you.
Beyond that, watch guys who are cool. Watch what they do. Listen to how they will bust on a girl is she's playing with her eye or something uncool. Watch adventurer types too that dress cool and talk about climbing on buildings and stuff for another perspective on what can work. Lean back instead of forward when you're not sure what to do. Talk louder rather than lean in or use hand motions to call her closer. Realize in clubs you can almost always hand a girl's hand while talking to her. They will actually be much more comfortable when you do this. I don't think you need a book for this stuff.