"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"I don't want to see you when I feel like this"

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"I don't want to see you when I feel like this"

Ever have a girl give you that line???? The basically say they are upset and are having problems and need to be alone...... Is that true or female bs?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jayer said:
"I don't want to see you when I feel like this"

Ever have a girl give you that line???? The basically say they are upset and are having problems and need to be alone...... Is that true or female bs?
What's up Jayer,

Hey,this is a weird comment man. Weird,but there IS a reason why she would say this. It would help to have a little background first,though. Like how long you've known this girl,under what context did she say this,(like were you on the phone,or out on a date,or whatever). Also,when she said she didn't want to be around you when you feel like this,did she say or explain what "this" is?
Because honestly,she could be having some emotion that makes her not want to not be around you,although that is HIGHLY unlikely. but like you said,it could also just be some sort of excuse as well.
 

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She could just be feeling unattractive or have a massive pimple on her face or something.
 

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Igetit! said:
What's up Jayer,

Hey,this is a weird comment man. Weird,but there IS a reason why she would say this. It would help to have a little background first,though. Like how long you've known this girl,under what context did she say this,(like were you on the phone,or out on a date,or whatever). Also,when she said she didn't want to be around you when you feel like this,did she say or explain what "this" is?
Because honestly,she could be having some emotion that makes her not want to not be around you,although that is HIGHLY unlikely. but like you said,it could also just be some sort of excuse as well.

Its basically a plate I have been spinning... one that I didn't meet through my approach journal but who has kept me a bit delayed in finishing my approaches because I've had such a great time with her. She is basically moving away soon

Basically it was over the phone... I basically turned AFC and she ended up giving me the LJBF as of lately... but anyway its like this... we had sex last week and then after she invited me to a party in which we hooked up and possible would have had sex again had not she gotten sick and had all her friends around..... But I basically was left with the impression that she wanted to see me alone asap.......

So I kind of misread a situation on saturday and thought she dissed me to go out with some other guy and sent her some somewhat mean text messages saying I was done with her....... I did end up talking to her after that and basically admitted it was my misunderstanding...

So I talked to her on Sunday and I basically was all AFC... saying all mushy things and that I needed to see her blah blah blah... She said that she is in a bad mood and has a lot of problems going on in her life and wouldn't be good company for me while she was in that mood.... I kind of got mad again felt she was playing with me and to make a long story short she ended up LJBFING me Yesterday via email..... She basically explained it in the whole "Its me not you and it would be best to just be friends for now since she has so many issues and is moving away" Well this time I accepted it... played it cool and acted like I don't care.... we messaged for a bit... and she is actually moving away soon and says she wants to see me at least 1 last time and give me a hug before I go...

I always knew she was moving away and I basically wanted to spend as much time as I could with her before she did.... but now it kind of went downhill.... Do I still have a chance to get some more booty?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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