"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't want to marry my gf

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheMonkeyKing

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If I had these kind of doubts, I would question even staying with the girl, let alone anything more. She does sound quite blue pill; let me guess, she's above average looking....? :rolleyes:

Monogamous LTRs are like practice marriage and should be treated as such.
 

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
Sounds like you found prime meat. over-sheltered girls are ripe for anything.

While everyone is going through used and abused girls trying to find the one with the least outrageous "terms and conditions" you found one that's clean and ungamed.

Keep her around for a little while longer.
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Then you don't know what you are doing, or she is a stubborn b!tch. If it's the former, mold her into what you want to be and make it so that she wants what you want. Dominate her. And sex often too. If it's not, then then leave her. Be that Disney Prince Charming who she would do anything for. Then she will follow you.

However if she is a stubborn b!tch, just leave her because your relationship will end soon enough.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If marriage is your ultimate goal, then you are wasting your time.

Trust me, if your gut tells you something like this, then you need to stick with it. I didn't follow my gut and settled and ended up with a divorce, not pretty!

You have two options
1. dump her now, enjoy single life while filtering for a woman for you
2. Stay with her and possibly miss out on a better woman
 

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
You know the answer...
 

El Payaso

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Then don't.
 

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Dude, beyond this "I don't wanna marry her"...this post feels like you're miserable right now or sth. Why would you stay in such a relationship?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
Over-sheltered college girls would potentially make great LTR candidates. However, it doesn't mean she's right for you.

You have to figure out what you want out of like. If you're fine with having the same chick hanging around, keep dating her but don't marry. If you would rather be banging other hot slvts, then it's time to get rid of her.
 

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My dad used to talk about opportunity costs.

What opportunities is staying with a woman you'll never marry costing you?

You're only young once. Quit spinning your wheels and start spinning plates.
 

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I know it's going to be hard on you and on her but you need to let her go. You need to free yourself and her up to find someone else. You are only delaying the inevitable and wasting everyone's time.

Good luck
 

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
If you have different mindsets, save yourself pain, trouble, and time by getting out of the relationship. These gaps in values will only exacerbate if you stay in the relationship longer or you marry. You know you're not feeling this girl of yours as much as you did before.

Do you live together? If not, it should be simple to break up and move on to a woman with whom you can have a better relationship.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I see it being miserable because idk if I could live with her, our mindsets/philosophies conflict, and our goals and life plans conflict with each other. Her Disney mentality is over 9000 because she is an over-sheltered college girl.
Sir you don't want to marry ANY American woman.

The market of women have changed, we are no longer in a market that marriage even makes sense anymore. Men and women no longer "need" each other for survival, and with the explosion of social media/dating platforms.....it's very hard to just stay with one person for the REST of your life.

Plus there's absolutely NO benefit you get from marrying a woman than just from being in a committed relationship with her. Committed relationship means you promote her as your number one girl or only girl, even though you might be seeing other women on the side.
 

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don't ever get married to anyone, stay with her until you stop enjoying it.

simple enough right?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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