I don't want to have sex.

[thewarrior]

I'm not a virgin but I don't have the urge anymore to approach girls and eventually have sex with them.

Why?

I always wind up thinking about her past sexual partners (even if I don't know the girl...even before I approach the girl). I think about the girl sucking some dude's c0ck or taking it up the a$$...and I lose all interest. Sex has become nauseating to me, especially since females my age probably had more than a few one night stands and several relationships where her BF pounded her pu55y four times a day.

I don't even like watching porn anymore.

When I did have sex, I enjoyed it but for the past year or so, I've been struggling with these thoughts and now I just don't care about having sex anymore. I'll be happy being alone and abstinate.

 

[mothballs]

You should seek help. It's not a bad thing to be abstinent... though some will argue it is. However, the reasons you put forth why you are not wanting sex are not healthy. If a girl tests clean for STD's there should be no issue with sticking your **** in her *****. There is nothing left over from a guy she dated months or years ago... there is nothing left over from a guy that ****ed her yesterday. That aside, the underlying psychological reasons why you can't be where another man was are not healthy.

 

[thewarrior]

You should seek help. It's not a bad thing to be abstinent... though some will argue it is. However, the reasons you put forth why you are not wanting sex are not healthy. If a girl tests clean for STD's there should be no issue with sticking your **** in her *****. There is nothing left over from a guy she dated months or years ago... there is nothing left over from a guy that ****ed her yesterday. That aside, the underlying psychological reasons why you can't be where another man was are not healthy.

I know it's not healthy. I'm just venting my feelings right now. It just grosses me out that I'm dude #15 or whatever. When I had sex, it was with someone who I really liked. I never had a one night stand or hooked up with a girl at a party just because she was hot. I really like to know a girl before sleeping with her but it seems like most females don't feel the same way. They all say they do, but it's not true.

 

[Scars]

So basically you're just making up excuses for your lack of sexual conquests. Who cares what number you are to her? Don't even let it become an issue. I think you're just afraid. You're probably the type of guy who can't have sex without getting emotionally involved. It only "disgusts" you because you know that there's girls out there that will be more detached about it then you and you know it. You're denying your sexuality because you're afraid of rejection. Grow some balls and fvck a girl over. It feels good.

 

[DJsparky]

think about it this way, girl's clean often very often. So it won't even matter to you now because you'll be ****ing girls who are clean. Girls also have periods and **** themselves but it doesn't stop people ****ing them, i would just focus on the fact that when you are getting a girl she's going to be clean

 

[DonJuan11]

I'm not a virgin but I don't have the urge anymore to approach girls and eventually have sex with them.

Why?

I always wind up thinking about her past sexual partners (even if I don't know the girl...even before I approach the girl). I think about the girl sucking some dude's c0ck or taking it up the a$$...and I lose all interest. Sex has become nauseating to me, especially since females my age probably had more than a few one night stands and several relationships where her BF pounded her pu55y four times a day.

I don't even like watching porn anymore.

When I did have sex, I enjoyed it but for the past year or so, I've been struggling with these thoughts and now I just don't care about having sex anymore. I'll be happy being alone and abstinate.

Either you are going though a dry spell or some women pissed you off by refusing to have sex with you. The fact that you made this thread so detailed about not wanting to have sex means you want to have sex and sex is important to you.

If a naked Jessica Alba was standing in front of you ready to go, I highly doubt you would refuse. "Sorry Jessica, I'm really attracted to you, but I can't sleep with you because all I can think about is another guy putting it inside you."

 

[cola]

I used to be like that but not quite as extreme. You need to realize that this isn't the 1950s anymore and females aren't as encouraged by society to hide there love of sexual plesaure. I think us as men need to stop this double standard. If you banged 20 girls in your life its fine but if she banged 20 guys your turned off? Its not really fair. Females love sex as much as we do and there's absoloutely nothing wrong with a chick who likes sex. Its your own sense of entitlement ..

But if you choose not to agree with me than find virgins there out there just have to look. But I think its wrong to ask for something in others that you don't have yourself. So if you want sexual partners with a minimal amount of past partners than you should keep yout sexual partners to a minimum
Just my 2 cents sorry if a tad harsh
-chris

 

[Warrior74]

These guys nailed. Defense mechanism, scared. Completely unmanly. Your gonna struggle to find a virgin or a girl who is honest about how many she has been with. Worrying and asking doesn't change anything at all.

 

[thewarrior]

You're probably the type of guy who can't have sex without getting emotionally involved.

Yes, I am that kind of guy. As weird as it may sound in 2009, I don't like unemotional ****ing. If that makes me less of a man, then so be it.

 

[prairiedog24]

Yes, I am that kind of guy. As weird as it may sound in 2009, I don't like unemotional ****ing. If that makes me less of a man, then so be it.

Meh, there are more of us on here. But Chris said it well, don't hold others to a standard you don't employ. It's one thing to start over, but another to be a hypocrit.

I know full well my current interest has had half a dozen partners or so... it won't bother me at all unless I find out she still is in that stage and playing me for a "friend." Then admittedly I'll probably be fairly hurt/turned off. But the knowledge of her past doesn't make her less desirable to me, just a lot more of an emotional liability.

 

[everywomanshero]

I was going to post something but this guy is beyond my help. Recommend a depression screening.

 

[Kal0051]

wow, ok why is sex such a big deal? To be honest I don't even care about sex all that much, sure sex is fun (don't get me wrong I do enjoy it) but I like the stuff I do with a girl before sex. And I don't even care if I'm not getting any. Call me weird/AFC/****ed up, I don't care, sex just isn't a driving force in my life.

 

[shadowfox]

Hey dont listen to these guys, it is completly natural and healthy to not want to fvck a slvt. Go join a church or something if you want to meet a quality woman although they may not want sex until marriage.

 

[bluemanson]

Either you are going though a dry spell or some women pissed you off by refusing to have sex with you. The fact that you made this thread so detailed about not wanting to have sex means you want to have sex and sex is important to you.

If a naked Jessica Alba was standing in front of you ready to go, I highly doubt you would refuse. "Sorry Jessica, I'm really attracted to you, but I can't sleep with you because all I can think about is another guy putting it inside you."

Bwahahahahahaahaha
F*** Her definately. i dont care what she has,il take her on any day, any time LOKL. i can picture it now LOL

Sorry guy but you really need to grow some balls, but i think the issue is much deeper and you medical attention for this ****

 

[randalll]

dont listen to bluemanson you dont need medical attention
and its got nothing to do with your balls
if you dont wanna have sex then dont
there's more to life than getting your d*ck wet

 

[Noob_Lee]

no offense randalll but if you really think that gettin your **** wet dusnt matter explain why you are on a forum thats is dedicated to just that?

 

[cola]

no offense randalll but if you really think that gettin your **** wet dusnt matter explain why you are on a forum thats is dedicated to just that?

This site isn't just about getting layed. Its about self improvement, developing social skills.. there are guys on this site who can't even muster the spirit to speak to an attractive girl let alone get layed.
Chris

 

[Da Realist]

Use a condom.