"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I'm trying to setup a second date with this girl I went out with. Today, I asked her if she wanted to go to the carnival but is giving the maybe answer. Thats the one thing that drives me insane, I cant stand the indecisive answers. Either tell me yes or no.

But anyways, the first date I had with her was awesome. I took her out to play putt putt and we were exchanging a lot of Kino. She was even grabbing my ass and such when I was up. And to top it off, I got the kiss at the end.

How should I pursue?
 

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There is no such thing as maybe. Mind you, carnival is a good date idea, she could be waiting for her friends on other plans. But hey since she picked up the phone for the second date, that's not too bad. You may be still doing good.
 
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Well for whatever reason she isn't that interested in you. Her saying "maybe" might as well be:

"I'm waiting for something better to do that night but if all my plans fall through then I might as well not sit at home alone so I'll go with you to the carnival."
 
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flexion_ said:
Well for whatever reason she isn't that interested in you. Her saying "maybe" might as well be:

"I'm waiting for something better to do that night but if all my plans fall through then I might as well not sit at home alone so I'll go with you to the carnival."
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this is what im afraid of.... hoping its not that.

its what I get for trying to pull two dates in a day. I'm taking this other girl out tonight anyways.
 
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