I dont or cant hold eye contact...killing my IL?

[solo1]

You know i never realized this until recently i've been doing this very often. Whenever i talk to a girl, whether or not im interested, i dont hold eye contact. This has become a very bad habit for me.... But i've also realized im doing this in general with people

either A) they think im not listening to what their saying
B) think im disinterested (which i probably am from the start)

But I remember somwhere in the bible, Eye contact creates a feeling of "being in love". I agree. The times ive done it in the past, has worked wonders in boosting their IL in me, it creates this type of subconscious connection. and it gives me this go-hung feeling too. like in movies electricity moving from eye to eye.

Is it because of my lack of EC, that IL isnt created on their part as well as mine?

 

[silenthill]

I don't really have a problem making eye contact, its just if they arn't looking back it feels to much like I'm staring at them.

 

[solo1]

I know what you mean and i agree.
On my part it's not a confidence issue, i guess you could say i dont care enough to pay attention (keep eye contact)... then again sometimes im just sleepy. but then again a lot of people are like that, so maybe im not that different after all.
No wonder my friend sometimes tells me im distant and another girl one time asked if i was bored.

 

[Black_Italian]

I love EC last night i was in class and half the times i turned around this girl was looking at me so i look at her straight in the eyes and she quickly looks down this happend 5 or 6 times.

She want's me.

general rule never break EC first.

Ninja out

 

[oakraiderz2]

EC is good stuff.I remember one time i made EC with this one chick and it felt like we needed to get it on. Too bad she was such a sketchy person.

 

[Valdez]

Eyecontact is one of the strongest tools in your aresenal. Its not all about maintaining eye contact, its about knowing when to hold eye contact...when not too...and being able to switch back and forth between both techniques.

A technique I like to use, is to start the convo with strong eyecontact...but soon after, break eyecontact...while slowly building up strong steady eye contact. By the time noticable eye contact is made, the person will feel like they have earned your attention, and will be much more receptive of you.