Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I don't like these "there's this girl..." threads, but

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Just wanna share something... I been talking to this chick for a little bit cuz she was in my class, got her screen name, number etc... I said lets grab lunch, so we did, even though one of her girlfriends was with her. meh, it was pretty fun, watever. So I'm just chillin with one of my boys and decided to text her.

Hey
-hi
What u doing
-blabla
lets hang out on tuesday when we get back

...does not respond for an hour!
so an hour later, since she did not reply i send the following text: "aight sweety, have a good life then :)"

2 seconds later shes like "lol sorry i was in the shower, yah sure"

I did not even say anything. I guess she does wanna hang out, but just got on my nerves
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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just a little more info about me:
The reason I dont like this type of threads is because if you're writing an online post about a specific bytch, you're already thinking too much about her... if theres any doubt just move on to other girls...

But i had this (i hate this word) oneitis since 1.5 years ago, and I got hurt alot mainly because i didn't know any ****en better. Ever since then ive had a BAD attitude towards women in general because i was afraid of getting hurt again. Just recently i began to snap out of it... with the help of you all.
Respek.
 
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DJVladdy said:
Hey
-hi
What u doing
-blabla
lets hang out on tuesday when we get back

...does not respond for an hour!
so an hour later, since she did not reply i send the following text: "aight sweety, have a good life then :)"

2 seconds later shes like "lol sorry i was in the shower, yah sure"
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Oh man, please take your ego down from the throne you put it on and give her a break for not responding immediately. Talk about wanting instant gratification. That's want happens when you have tv, computers, cell phones, etc, etc.
 
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DJVladdy said:
Just wanna share something... I been talking to this chick for a little bit cuz she was in my class, got her screen name, number etc... I said lets grab lunch, so we did, even though one of her girlfriends was with her. meh, it was pretty fun, watever. So I'm just chillin with one of my boys and decided to text her.

Hey
-hi
What u doing
-blabla
lets hang out on tuesday when we get back

...does not respond for an hour!
so an hour later, since she did not reply i send the following text: "aight sweety, have a good life then :)"

2 seconds later shes like "lol sorry i was in the shower, yah sure"

I did not even say anything. I guess she does wanna hang out, but just got on my nerves
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You fu[c]ked up.
 
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To elaborate, she was semi-interested (she didn't reply right away), and you blew it because you were impatient.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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eh man maybe i did f up... its a shame cuz shes a hottie and a nice girl too. I've actually been a prick to her all this time... wow thanks to all the authors of "be alpha male" books and articles. LOL
 
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On the other hand what was she thinkin bringing her ugly friend with her... Some time in the middle of our "coffee", I think we walked to a different part of the cafe... i pulled her aside and was like whats she doing here, is it cuz your trying to hook me up u wanna explain?? She just laughed it off, thought it was funny, shes like noo im just kidding.
 
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If anyone has suggestions or comments, ur welcome to say it
 
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ok last bump lol, suggestions anyone
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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an hour is too short a time. She could have been really taking a shower she might be honest. Give it 24 hours. No girl forgets to check her messages for a day so if she doesn't text you within 24 hours you are out of luck.
 
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Ok ive had this problem a lot. And there's not much you can do really. Besides from waiting a day for her to text back like what "Joe The Homophobe" said. The reality is she probably did forget or is busy. Well at least that is what you MUST think.

What i usually do is say something like this in a similar situation: "Hey brat, hurry up and reply! Jeez, your not playing hard to get already...sick lol"

But you have to change that comment so it fits something like you could say and it would make sense in the situation . But you get the idea....
That comment is the best i can think of. But it can be still taken as needy in your situation. Depends if she likes you or not?? So just a warning...
 
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