ThunderMaverick
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iqqi said:
So should I thank you for entertaining me?
Oooh SNAP! :flowers:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I don't know whether to laugh or cry.....
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So should I thank you for entertaining me?
Oooh SNAP! :flowers:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Funny, that's exactly how I look at it!! Even the lowest of the low common denominators can at least provide one w/ some entertainment value. That's not a cruel outlook, IMO; it's simply turning lemons into lemonade. :yes:iqqi said:
In my eyes...when it comes to women: Quality is not about looks (as they are going to go away), it is not about education or lack of...as those things are more of "preferrences" than anything else. Quality in this case is about RESPECT for her man.
And when it comes to men: Quality is not about social standard or health or age...as that is also about preferrences...Quality in this case is actually about POSITIVE Masculinity and ability to PROVIDE (e.g. emotionally, mentally, etc.).
And when it comes to men: Quality is not about social standard or health or age...as that is also about preferrences...Quality in this case is actually about POSITIVE Masculinity and ability to PROVIDE (e.g. emotionally, mentally, etc.).
Gerard-890
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Latinoman,
I agree with you. Quality women are those with RESPECT and quality men are those with an ability to PROVIDE (emotionally, physically, socially).
However, we can't get centered on pre-assumed "gender roles." Like a pumped up religion, most guys here say women SHOULD be this (submissive, humble, caring, nurting) and men SHOULD be this (strong, brave, provider,) and in actuality, those are preassumed gender roles made up by other men then retaught to this generation.
Instead, the focus should be on being a WHOLE PERSON. A whole person with internal peace, joy, and satisification, with an overall appreciation for life. Then an external determination to achieve great things, make the world a better place, and deal with any issues FACE ON.
This WHOLE PERSON should be what any man or woman should strive for.
Then when it comes to a valuable relationship, this WHOLE PERSON should seek another WHOLE PERSON.
So the two come together to ENJOY life and SHARE in its experiences, instead of coming together in a handicapped fashion and expecting the other to CARRY or FILL A GAP in their lives.
I agree with you. Quality women are those with RESPECT and quality men are those with an ability to PROVIDE (emotionally, physically, socially).
However, we can't get centered on pre-assumed "gender roles." Like a pumped up religion, most guys here say women SHOULD be this (submissive, humble, caring, nurting) and men SHOULD be this (strong, brave, provider,) and in actuality, those are preassumed gender roles made up by other men then retaught to this generation.
Instead, the focus should be on being a WHOLE PERSON. A whole person with internal peace, joy, and satisification, with an overall appreciation for life. Then an external determination to achieve great things, make the world a better place, and deal with any issues FACE ON.
This WHOLE PERSON should be what any man or woman should strive for.
Then when it comes to a valuable relationship, this WHOLE PERSON should seek another WHOLE PERSON.
So the two come together to ENJOY life and SHARE in its experiences, instead of coming together in a handicapped fashion and expecting the other to CARRY or FILL A GAP in their lives.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gerard-890
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Latinoman I think focusing on the internal side of things FIRST would make guys more succcessful.
I honestly believe this entire thing is more of an internal connection then anything.
I honestly believe this entire thing is more of an internal connection then anything.
wjh
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LOLOLiqqi said:
My goodness this board is polluted.
Here is MY opinion when it comes to "suicidal" issues:
I stay away from that stuff, because I am NOT a trained psycologist or psychiatrist. Many times people do a LOT more harm by trying to "help" with their words. In a way, what they do is help bring things that are buried deep in the subconscious of the person and potentially putting his/her life and the life of others at risk.
Situations in which NON experts have given words of encouragement to a person...has translated into the person becoming "selfish" and harming others (e.g. "source of their stress").
Threads about people wanting to commit suicide has no room in a place like this.
I stay away from that stuff, because I am NOT a trained psycologist or psychiatrist. Many times people do a LOT more harm by trying to "help" with their words. In a way, what they do is help bring things that are buried deep in the subconscious of the person and potentially putting his/her life and the life of others at risk.
Situations in which NON experts have given words of encouragement to a person...has translated into the person becoming "selfish" and harming others (e.g. "source of their stress").
Threads about people wanting to commit suicide has no room in a place like this.
Also...by providing "help"...what people are doing is encouraging the person to continue to seek help in message boards, instead of seeking help with trained PROFESSIONALS.
As I said...the best thing is to tell the person to seek help with train professionals and leave it at that.
"Gerard...go seek help from a train professional." That's the only thing I would have wrote.
As I said...the best thing is to tell the person to seek help with train professionals and leave it at that.
"Gerard...go seek help from a train professional." That's the only thing I would have wrote.