i dont know what to talk about

[jack03]

it is always the same problem i just dont know what to talk about with the girl when i approach. How can i get better ?
Are there any good ebooks/books ?

 

[the_gunslinger]

Try these:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16930

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16664

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16646

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16382

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16383

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16766

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16621

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16267

And look for Pooks threads on ********.

 

[jack03]

thanks. i know these ones but that didnt had any effect. do somebody have other ideas ?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by jack03
thanks. i know these ones but that didnt had any effect. do somebody have other ideas ?

Talk about the experience the two of you are sharing right then and there. If you are in the coffee shop, ask her about what she's drinking. If you are in a club, talk about the DJ or the music. If you are in a bookstore, comment about whatever section you two are in.

It seems lame but it is just the bait to start a real conversation. Understand that these things are just small talk and should not be used as the fodder for the entire conversation. What you want it to do is to lead into gaining some personal incite into her.

 

[jack03]

used as the fodder for the entire conversation. What you want it to do is to lead into gaining some personal incite into her.


thanks dude !!! but what should i talk then ?????? in the entire conversation ? i have no clue ! really laugh about me but i am really bad in´it !

 

[the_gunslinger]

you might wanna try:
http://www.vandruff.com/art_converse.html

as well as that, some general areas:

Music: favourite artist/ genre/ group/ song. how do they make her feel?
holdays: where/ when/ who with/ favourie/ where she wants to go
films: see music
books: see music

that should do for starters.

And ask her if she has any talents

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by jack03
thanks dude !!! but what should i talk then ?????? in the entire conversation ? i have no clue ! really laugh about me but i am really bad in´it !

You need to listen to the woman's answers really closely and to into the direction the conversation leads you. All the while you need to remember exactly WHAT you want to achieve from the exchange.

More times than not guys want to get a telephone number as their goal. Personally I want to find out if this is a person I would want to spend time with together AND if I think that she is, set up a time for us to spend time together. A phone number isn't necessary for this goal but it helps.

To get to whatever your goal may be, the conversation needs to happen in three parts:

1. Introduction (the small talk that initiates the conversation)
2. Gain rapport (the non-cliché type conversation that leads from the introduction)
3. Set up a meeting (the 'close' where you take things to the next level [acquaintances])

For example, if you are in a club, talk about dancing and other things she does in her free time. If you are in a book store, find out what subjects she enjoy, is she a fictional reader who enjoys escaping into fantasy or a non-fiction reader who enjoys the facts and learning new concepts. The key is find out what makes her tick and then suggest you do something similar together.

Understand that the initial meeting doesn't usually go beyond 3 to five minutes. Anything more than that may make you seem like a lost puppy. However, it's a whole other matter if you hit it off and decide to go off and do something together right then and there.