"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I dont know what to do anymore...please help me

DustinPotter

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So there was a girl who added me on facebook and it turns out we go to the same taekwondo place. so then she starts messaging with me and everything. she was the 1st girl to tell me "ily" and add a "<3" and she was also the 1st girl to give me a valentines day gift. i really like(d) her and im jes not sure if i do anymore. she keeps on avoiding me now. its not really possible for me to meet up with her. we go to different schools and we hardly ever see each other at tkd and when we do, its between classes and we never get the chance to talk. i've really been going crazy lately due to all the mixed signals im recieving. she says she wants to do somethin together later but she never talks or anything. our conversations were mostly through AIM or facebook. we had a real conversation only once and that was when we were giving each other v-day gifts. But now she clearly told me she doesnt want to talk...I feel like im going to move on. Normally i change who i like very often. and all my friends tell me not to do that becuz it kinda hurts the girls feelings. i take things pretty seriously and i overthink things a LOT. yeah i overthink things waaaaay to much. usually when a girl acted shy around me i'd so "f*** it" and move onto another girl becuz i thot she didn't like me back. so i've really kinda pushed myself into continuing to like her after a few "shy" incidents. my feelings for her have been really up and down. its either: "I like her" "I dont like her" "I question whether i like her" "I miss her" ETC....one day i went so insane i got a pretty bad headache and i started to get sick. she sends me so many different signals..and its really hard for me to carry on with this. I really dont know what to do anymore. can anyone help me?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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hover411

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just ask her out, straight up. either online or in person.

if she is interested, great, if not, move on.
 

Warrior74

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If you don't know what to do...you have two choices, do nothing (walk away, move on) or go for what you want full on and be willing to lose it all. Either is better than indecision hell.

I say stop all the computer talk, get her alone in person, go do something fun and see where it goes. You are taking forever to make a real move here. If a girl is acting shy but still talking to you she's interested. It just means you ahve to be a man and make the first move. Stop waiting for a sign..she's there...with you...that's all the proof you need. Good luck.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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stayfly

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it sounds like your crap with women bro

are you crap at communication in general or just with women?

is the rest of your life normal or is it screwed as well?

I think there may be some deeper issues going on
 
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