I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

[Jon55]

When I meet someone new, things immediately start to take off. We'll talk, laugh, have fun. We'll begin to hang out more often. Soon we're almost like best buds and it feels like the other person will follow me wherever I go, then one day things taper off and suddenly they aren't interested as much. And things slowly start to digress from there.

Now the digressing part doesn't happen often (although admitably it has happened with most of my gf's). Im sure this means we need to back the fvck off of each other, and space out the time we spend with each other.

Keep in mind this whole process typically happens over like 6-7 months, with most of the time spent having fun. I'm pretty sure this isn't a typical relationship (this happens with both guys and girls).

 

[Sexual]

I'm exactly the same way.

First and foremost, it has taken me a while to accept that I'm just not able (probably you as well) to hold a serious relationship that takes an immense portion of my time. While I try to keep up the same hobbies and schedule that I did while I was single, my stress level and irredibility goes through the roof.

Second, I'm a man with a very strong and a very opinionated personality. Considering this: I'm unable to find a woman that is (1) able to keep me mentally and physically interested by being strong and independant, and (2) be submissive when I want to be a leader and be the man in the relationship.

Obviously, I'm contridicting myself in what I'm looking for. How old are you? Maybe we're meant for bigger and better things, and our relationships should be held off until later in life. Form better bonds with your boys and develop your future first.

 

[Jon55]

I'm exactly the same way.

First and foremost, it has taken me a while to accept that I'm just not able (probably you as well) to hold a serious relationship that takes an immense portion of my time. While I try to keep up the same hobbies and schedule that I did while I was single, my stress level and irredibility goes through the roof.

Second, I'm a man with a very strong and a very opinionated personality. Considering this: I'm unable to find a woman that is (1) able to keep me mentally and physically interested by being strong and independant, and (2) be submissive when I want to be a leader and be the man in the relationship.

Obviously, I'm contridicting myself in what I'm looking for. How old are you? Maybe we're meant for bigger and better things, and our relationships should be held off until later in life. Form better bonds with your boys and develop your future first.

See that's the thing though I find myself sometimes really wanting to be in a relationship.

I know I can tend to spend too much time with them, but I often feel like they want to spend that same time with me. I'd back off, allowing them to miss me and all, but I wonder if they won't just lose interest or not even notice. Oh, and I'm in my very early 20's. I've found I'm interested in more mature girls, but always end up attracting younger girls (I look like I'm 17 ).

Seems like I need a million friends/things to do just so I can keep things normal with relationships.