"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"I don't know if it would work out....."

The Great One

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Ok, well I am talking to this girl and she straight out tells me that she likes me and wants to know if I was interested in her and I said I was. So then she goes on to say that she doesn't know if it would work out because she feels that I think she wouldn't be a good girlfriend. What do I say to that? HELP!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mr_rogers

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The Great One said:
Ok, well I am talking to this girl and she straight out tells me that she likes me and wants to know if I was interested in her and I said I was. So then she goes on to say that she doesn't know if it would work out because she feels that I think she wouldn't be a good girlfriend. What do I say to that? HELP!!!
When she said that, I would have smiled, shrugged and said, "Your loss." and walked away. As I was walking away I would have called over my shoulder, "Let me know if you ever change your mind." or something to that affect and just left her standing there, looking like a fool.
 

dannowillbookem

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thatd be good, but honestly she used a line you shouldve used

her: are you interested in me?
you: a lil, but it would never work out. my mom doesnt like me dating loose women.
 

shydude

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Errrrr why would she said that? To make her look bad?? NOOO!!! She is testing u!!!
 

Phat

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haha u shouldnt of told her that u like her
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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KillaCam

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Phat said:
haha u shouldnt of told her that u like her
That being said, what should he have done?
 
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