"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i dont know how to handle her!!

shubh

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hey friends....
i like a girl from the last 4 years...we were in the same class 2 years ago.there i have talked to her only two times.then i changed my school..then i met her on facebook about a year ago.we talked twice...then i told her that i liked her..2 years ago..one day i fell ill and i was in the hospital.there i was feeling very lonely..then i messaged her that i love her very much..i cant live without her..etc etc.then she told me that she only respects me as a good person..and she said that she doesnt likes me.then i deleted her from facebook as my friend.then after 4-5 months she sent me a friend request.i accepted that...after my schools get over i have strated to know about alpha male behaviour...i dont have her mobile number and i also dont know what to do next...so here's our latest chat..
well she recently gave a national level exam so here's the chat-
me-i think you didnt do well in the exam.i knew that through your expressions.(i was teasing her)
she-hello!! exams first part went quite good.and secong part went ok-ok.and how do u know through my expressions?
me-well its a secret art lady_!!! but probably u wudnt understand!!
she-why??
me-only friends can know the secrets like that..
she-so am i not your friend?
me-oh, i thought u were just flirting with me
she-what?
me- never mind,i thought u were just like other girls
she-what do you mean?
me-what things you dislike?(i tried to change the topic)
she-i asked what you meant?
me-wow..you get angry too quickly..but i like the girls with a sense of humour.

thats all.i messaged this her a day ago ..she didnt replied yet...please help me out guys....
should i make a move and ask her phone number?
what is she thinking about me???
what would you have done??
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Sneevox

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me-only friends can know the secrets like that..
she-so am i not your friend?
me-oh, i thought u were just flirting with me
What were you trying to say here? I think this is where you went wrong the most. Also, LearningSlowly is right. Just move on.
 

Nino-Tk

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4 years man...hmm, that's a damn long time, well, you told her you loved and she still didn't reciprocate that back, honestly, this is a lost cause, man up...and just like LearningSlowly said, go for other girls, you will cause yourself unnecessary pain if you follow through with courting her.
 

alxrose04

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Take this as a learning experience, my friend. I see you trying to be playful. I agree with Sneevox, the flirting part is where you went wrong. I know your are probably cringing at the criticisim but it's a learning experience. Everybody has gone through this.

How to fix it? Watch a lot of comedy and improv shows. See how this play along with jokes and keep everything light.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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