"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i dont know how to handle her!!

shubh

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hey friends....
i like a girl from the last 4 years...we were in the same class 2 years ago.there i have talked to her only two times.then i changed my school..then i met her on facebook about a year ago.we talked twice...then i told her that i liked her..2 years ago..one day i fell ill and i was in the hospital.there i was feeling very lonely..then i messaged her that i love her very much..i cant live without her..etc etc.then she told me that she only respects me as a good person..and she said that she doesnt likes me.then i deleted her from facebook as my friend.then after 4-5 months she sent me a friend request.i accepted that...after my schools get over i have strated to know about alpha male behaviour...i dont have her mobile number and i also dont know what to do next...so here's our latest chat..
well she recently gave a national level exam so here's the chat-
me-i think you didnt do well in the exam.i knew that through your expressions.(i was teasing her)
she-hello!! exams first part went quite good.and secong part went ok-ok.and how do u know through my expressions?
me-well its a secret art lady_!!! but probably u wudnt understand!!
she-why??
me-only friends can know the secrets like that..
she-so am i not your friend?
me-oh, i thought u were just flirting with me
she-what?
me- never mind,i thought u were just like other girls
she-what do you mean?
me-what things you dislike?(i tried to change the topic)
she-i asked what you meant?
me-wow..you get angry too quickly..but i like the girls with a sense of humour.

thats all.i messaged this her a day ago ..she didnt replied yet...please help me out guys....
should i make a move and ask her phone number?
what is she thinking about me???
what would you have done??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sneevox

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me-only friends can know the secrets like that..
she-so am i not your friend?
me-oh, i thought u were just flirting with me
What were you trying to say here? I think this is where you went wrong the most. Also, LearningSlowly is right. Just move on.
 

Nino-Tk

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4 years man...hmm, that's a damn long time, well, you told her you loved and she still didn't reciprocate that back, honestly, this is a lost cause, man up...and just like LearningSlowly said, go for other girls, you will cause yourself unnecessary pain if you follow through with courting her.
 

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Take this as a learning experience, my friend. I see you trying to be playful. I agree with Sneevox, the flirting part is where you went wrong. I know your are probably cringing at the criticisim but it's a learning experience. Everybody has gone through this.

How to fix it? Watch a lot of comedy and improv shows. See how this play along with jokes and keep everything light.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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