"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

I dont get this girl.. at all..

needexc

Don Juan
Joined
May 10, 2007
Messages
39
Reaction score
0
So a few weeks ago this girl texted me after i went underground for 3 years on her.

Now i played the usual cards (only texting her every 3-4 days) when we have a convo via text its all good she sends allot of "haha" and smileys so i geuss thats alright.

We both agreed on a date but we both also need to check if we have time off (shes a nurse with a baaaad work schedule).

Fun thing is she is the one who contacted and keeps contacting me, when all of the sudden mid convo she just starts ignoring me. I have absolutely no problem with that but everytime i decide to let her alone and take the piss on someone else.. she contacts me again :s

I can clearly see her getting on and offline the whole day, she is a eastern european very beautifull girl and i really have a soft spot for that (dont judge me im not weak, just think eastern european have the hottest women).


I havent let her notice yet but she really confuses me and as long as she is confusing me im not going to contact her.


My question is.. should i ask her whatsup on leaving mid convo? Should i just plain ignore her? Or should I ask her out (she told me she'd really like that)


What the hell?!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

BetterCallSaul

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 25, 2014
Messages
855
Reaction score
373
Location
Texas
Next time she resumes text convo, immediately tell her where you'll be at X day and Y time. Tell her she needs to come too. She either shows up or not. Based on that, let that guide you in if you should maintain further contact.
 

sylvester the cat

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2012
Messages
1,695
Reaction score
98
Why haven't you asked her out? What are you texting her for if not to arrange a meet up?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

LMFAO

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2012
Messages
758
Reaction score
41
I'm a big fan of eastern european, tight arse and all that.

As said above, next time she contacts ask her out "let's go to this cool bar I heard of at 8pm on <>, cool?"

You will either get an acceptance (women typically don't have a yes in their vocabulary for these type of questions so will just say "sounds good" or "cool"), maybe (follow up), no (delete number), counteroffer (respond back) or silence (delete number).
 

El Payaso

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2014
Messages
3,621
Reaction score
2,624
Because you're her texting buddy...
 

needexc

Don Juan
Joined
May 10, 2007
Messages
39
Reaction score
0
El payaso.. how could i be so blind, I should have asked her out way earlier. Lesson learned, moving on.

Thanks guys
 

latinnova

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 21, 2014
Messages
294
Reaction score
33
Ya, out of all experience I have had with texting... texting is only good to let her know you are caught in traffic, or anything else unexpected on your way to a date. Personal experience has taught me that texting can take the mystery away from you and run off a women quicker then hell in the early stages of dating, even if you are only responding to them blowing up your phone. Keep it to a bare minimum if you can with the next one.
 
Top