"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I dont get this girl.. at all..

needexc

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So a few weeks ago this girl texted me after i went underground for 3 years on her.

Now i played the usual cards (only texting her every 3-4 days) when we have a convo via text its all good she sends allot of "haha" and smileys so i geuss thats alright.

We both agreed on a date but we both also need to check if we have time off (shes a nurse with a baaaad work schedule).

Fun thing is she is the one who contacted and keeps contacting me, when all of the sudden mid convo she just starts ignoring me. I have absolutely no problem with that but everytime i decide to let her alone and take the piss on someone else.. she contacts me again :s

I can clearly see her getting on and offline the whole day, she is a eastern european very beautifull girl and i really have a soft spot for that (dont judge me im not weak, just think eastern european have the hottest women).


I havent let her notice yet but she really confuses me and as long as she is confusing me im not going to contact her.


My question is.. should i ask her whatsup on leaving mid convo? Should i just plain ignore her? Or should I ask her out (she told me she'd really like that)


What the hell?!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BetterCallSaul

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Next time she resumes text convo, immediately tell her where you'll be at X day and Y time. Tell her she needs to come too. She either shows up or not. Based on that, let that guide you in if you should maintain further contact.
 

sylvester the cat

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Why haven't you asked her out? What are you texting her for if not to arrange a meet up?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LMFAO

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I'm a big fan of eastern european, tight arse and all that.

As said above, next time she contacts ask her out "let's go to this cool bar I heard of at 8pm on <>, cool?"

You will either get an acceptance (women typically don't have a yes in their vocabulary for these type of questions so will just say "sounds good" or "cool"), maybe (follow up), no (delete number), counteroffer (respond back) or silence (delete number).
 

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Because you're her texting buddy...
 

needexc

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El payaso.. how could i be so blind, I should have asked her out way earlier. Lesson learned, moving on.

Thanks guys
 

latinnova

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Ya, out of all experience I have had with texting... texting is only good to let her know you are caught in traffic, or anything else unexpected on your way to a date. Personal experience has taught me that texting can take the mystery away from you and run off a women quicker then hell in the early stages of dating, even if you are only responding to them blowing up your phone. Keep it to a bare minimum if you can with the next one.
 
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