i don't get it

[Crazy Asian]

i've only posted a few posts, but i've been reading on this forum forever. i've read almost the entire HS bible and i still don't really understand. Whenever i start a convo with a girl, they always show absolutly no interest. i do it with a smile, eye contact, and confidence etc... but they just never seem to pay attention to me for more than a second. how do u guys do it? do i have to build up a good rep before girls will even take a second look at me?

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

it's not about talking to the girl

you have to be genuinely confident... no faking it (i have a feeling that your confidence isn't REAL, am i right?).

it's about building the attraction.

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talk slow, talk loud... talk with a deeper voice than normal (don't make it sound fake-ish like barry white-ish.)

in other words, be manly as hell... i'm being very general because there's so many ways to be masculine.

think as if theyre shy, silly young girls 4 years younger than you that look up to you and that they try flirting with you.

(visualize these... doesn't it make it look a lot easier?)

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

Are you funny? Are you good at telling stories? Or is it just more boring "How's your life?" banter?

You can be as manly as you want, but if you suck at conversation...

 

[CalmCoolAndConfident]

You have to play with her verbally before you can play with her physically. Do things like busting on her a little, doing the whole thing where you tell an unbelievable story or just something and they go "Really!?!" and you take it back by saying "No". And just general joking around, be serious about 10% of the time and when she asks you something never give a straight answer this keeps them talking and asking you questions plus it makes you look smooth and mysterious, this all goes under the catagory of banter. Banter is amazing because its soo mush fun to do and if you meet a girl who can hold her own in verbal banter you will never have those akward silences, did I mention its fun too. In short have fun with the way you talk to her and she'll be more interested in you if you can keep a running conversation.

 

[CalmCoolAndConfident]

Heres another point, forget about talking to women for a while, go with some men. Hang out with some guys who you would consider to be cool and are DJs themselves and just see how they act, tell stories, and flirt. Analyse them and see why it works, them apply it to your own game.

 

[Kev07]

you're not funny enough probably

 

[gmillar]

Girls need a hook. They need a reason to talk to you. Being really attractive can do it, or a really funny opener, but make it relevant so it's not totally canned. Being on a sports team or knowing her from class could help. Basically, they won't talk to you just because you're talking to them. You have to make them want to talk to you, not just try not to give them any reasons not to.